Lay Your Ego Down In Front Of Your Sheykh



O Believers, we must always be making syukur to our Lord Allah swt for giving us the gift of being from the ummat of the Holy Prophet (asws). As we are saying in our Tasbih, after every prayer, ‘Ala nikmatil Islam wa syaraful Iman Da Iman.’ Alhamdulillah, for the blessing of Islam and the honour of Iman, of faith, always we say Alhamdulillah. And we should be running to fit that to our lives so that we fit into the category of believers of the ummat of the Holy Prophet (asws).

We should be running to learn the lifestyle of the Prophet, of his Sahabi-e-Kiram, of their inheritors, and to apply it to our lives. As Allah swt is commanding us in the Holy Quran in Surat al-Ahzab, saying, ‘BismillahirRahmanirRahim, Indeed, in the Messenger of Allah, you have the most beautiful example to follow, for the one who hopes in the meeting with Allah and the last day, and remembers Allah much.’ And as Holy Prophet (asws)  once say to his Sahabi-e-Kiram, ‘all of my ummah will enter Paradise except those who refuse to enter Paradise.’

The Sahabi-e-Kiram asked, ‘who will refuse, Ya Rasulullah?’

And the Prophet (asws) said, ‘whoever obeys me will enter Paradise. And whoever disobeys me, he has refused to enter Paradise.’


So we must run to follow the example of the Prophet (asws), to run after his obedience and run away from disobeying him.

O believers, one of the most important messages we see in the lifestyle of the Holy Prophet (asws), in the lifestyle of the Sahabi-e-Kiram, in the lifestyle of the inheritors, is to always be running to help other people. To not be living selfishly in these dunya but to be running to be of service to other people. Holy Prophet (asws) is saying in his Hadiths e-Sharif, ‘the one who lifts the hardship from a believer in this dunya, Allah will lift his hardship on the Day of Judgement for him. The one who makes it easy for a person who has debt, Allah will make it easy for him in the dunya and in the hereafter. The one who covers a muslim, Allah will cover him in the dunya and in the Ahirat. Allah will look after His servants needs as long as His servant is looking after his brothers’ need.’

As one of the Grandsheykh of our Tarikat, Hz Abul Hasan Haqqani is saying, ‘The scholars, they wake up early in the morning and they look how to increase their knowledge. The pious, the religious ones, the ones who like to worship a lot, they wake up and they look how to increase their religion. But Abul Hasan looks for how to make the servant of Allah happy.’

Holy Prophet (asws), he was the most generous person.  He was always looking after other people. As Hz Jabbir ibn Abdullah (r.a) said, ‘he never said no to anyone who asked him for something.’ And Holy Prophet (asws) said, ‘if the mountain of Uhud was turned to gold and given to me, I will not keep it in my hand, longer than three days, and I would distribute all.’


One time Holy Prophet (asws) only had some goat milk in his house, but when a guest arrive to spend the night, the Prophet gave it to his guest while he and his family spent the night hungry. And the Sahabi-e-Kiram, they were the most generous one. Once Hz Sabit heard that another Sahabi was fasting and he wanted to help, that sahabi break his fast. He wanted to help that sahabi not because he had a lot, not because he had enough. He had very little, but still he wanted to help that sahabi.

He went to  his wife and said, ‘I will bring a guest tonight. When  we sit at the meal, keep the light, keep the lamp very dim.’

This is a lesson too, for men and for women. Women these days who are always complaining and look at how the sahabiyyat, she responded to Hz  Sabit, knowing that they hardly have any food for themselves in the house, and when her husband said, ‘I’m going to bring a guest tonight,’ she didn’t fight with him, she didn’t try to remind him. She didn’t lecture him. She obeyed him. See what happens.

He said, ‘I’m going to bring a guest tonight. When we sit at the meal, keep the lamp very dim.’ So when the guest came, Hz Sabit and his wife served him a full bowl of food. And they themselves had empty bowls. But because they kept the light very low and very dim, the guest could not see what was in that bowl. And they pretended to eat so that their guest would eat his fill and not be embarrassed.

The next day Holy Prophet (asws) saw Hz Sabit and he said, ‘Ya Sabit, Allah is very happy with how you hosted the guest last night.’

And the Sahabi-e-Kiram, they were generous. They were looking after other people, even at the cost of their own lives. They were sacrificing their lives not just as today’s Muslims were saying, ‘for Allah,’ or other ones, ‘For Aashiq-al Rasul,’ but they treat each other only with lying and cheating. But the sahaba e-Kiram, they sacrificed their lives for each other.


One Sahabi narrated, saying, “during the Battle of Yarmuk, I went out in search of my cousin who was in the front line, and I took some water for him. I found him heavily wounded and death were approaching him. I came to him with the little water I had but my cousin refused to drink. He saw another sahabi who was also near to death, and said, ‘give water to that one first, later you come to me.’

When I went to the second sahabi, that second sahabi refused water from me and said, ‘there’s another one in a worse condition than I am. Give water to that one and then come to me.’ Before I could reached that third sahabi,  that third sahabi had already passed from this world.

I ran back to the second sahabi, he had also already passed from this world. And then I ran back to my cousin, and he too had been crowned, with the crown of martyrdom.”

These are our examples. The Holy Prophet (asws) and our Sahabi-e-Kiram, these are our examples that they are taking the ayats of Allah swt and putting it in their lives, and for that ayat, they are willing to sacrifice their lives and everything that they have. Because Allah swt is saying in the Holy Quran, ‘Do you think you are going to reach to righteousness, to become a Salih, if you are not going to sacrifice something that you love?’

Never you are going to reach to that level of being a Salih, a Mukmin, a believer, unless you sacrifice that you love.

In these days, they sacrifice, not sacrifice, they give, when they have extra. When it comes to sacrificing, they don’t do it, especially if it’s going to inconvenience them. And worse than that, they are not willing to give to someone while they themselves have nothing. Not believers, not muslims, and not Mureeds. Mureeds these days, forget about sacrificing what they have, they cannot even sacrifice their pride. They cannot sacrifice their stubbornness. They cannot sacrifice their anger and their arrogance. Anytime they see someone touching them in any of these, immediately their ego jumps up to defend themselves and they end up just destroying all the good deeds that they have collected all these time.

What do you love? What does a man love most?

His ego.

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Be real. His ego. The part of himself that says, ‘I am me.’ Which is why in this Tarikat, sacrificing your ego, putting your ego down and laying it at the feet of your Sheykh, that is the most difficult and that is the highest thing that you can do; to become an Abdullah.

Forget about looking to your fellow sisters or brothers, to help them and we are following our Sheykh that is the servant of the most generous. Do we have even a little bit of this generosity? Do we have, what they call, a generosity of spirit, that someone may say something to you that you don’t like, someone may do something to you that you don’t like, do you have the generosity of your spirit to just swallow and smile and turn your head? What about looking to the other ones in the rest of the world and putting ourselves in their shoe?

If we are busy with that, that right now as we are speaking, you have children, you have husband, you have wives, you have parents, you have property, right now as we are speaking, there are our sisters and brothers that their children are being killed in front of them. Their parents are being tortured in front of them. Their property is stolen from them. But they are holding on to their faith. While we have everything and we are complaining non-stop. Once we complain, we are not standing at the door of Syukur. If you start complaining, we are standing at the door of laknat! Because we are not thanking Allah swt, and those who are not thanking Allah swt, they are friends with sheytan, and sheytan is the cursed one.

Are we even looking to the brothers and sisters who are sitting next to us, trying to understand what is their need and how we can help them?


We should not be selfish and live only for ourselves in this world. This is not the way of the Prophet(asws). It is not the way of the Sahabi-e-Kiram. It is not the way of our Sheykh, SahibulSaif. His name is that he is the servant of the most Generous, and whoever knows him, knows that he is the most generous person that they have ever seen. He sacrifice his food so others could eat, he sacrifice his wealth for the sake of others, he sacrifice his sleep to listen to people’s problem. He sacrifice his health to run in the way of Allah and he sacrifice his life in the service of his Lord, in the service of his Prophet. He sacrifice his life for you and for me, and for the whole world.

O Believers, Mureeds of SahibulSaif,  we should try to live like our Sheykh live. Live for Allah.

Live to help the other servants of Allah. Don’t just expect help, demanding help from others. That is the behaviour of a very low one. Do not live for  yourself or for your ego. That time InsyaAllah our Lord, our Rasul and our Sheykh, they will be happy with us, and we will pass clean to the other side.


– Jummah Khutbah by Hoja Lokman Efendi, Khalifah of Shaykh Abdulkerim el Kibrisi (qs) * OSMANLI DERGAHI- New York

March 7, 2014

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