Question: My ego does not want to love the Prophet (asws). I recite salawats but they are not sincere enough. How can I begin to love the Prophet?
Yes it’s true. That’s a very truthful and sincere question. So many are reciting salawats but they don’t have real love. If their love is tested a little bit, that time you are going to see what kind of faith they have. I know people, they are so fake reciting salawat, but if somebody disturbed their peace a little bit, shout or walk in front of them, straight away they stopped their salawat and they start screaming at that person, cursing at that person. What kind of love is that?
How are you going to begin to love the Prophet (asws)?
Very easy. Find that one who is representing the Prophet and love him. Find his waris, and love him. That’s why Allah swt is saying, ‘Obey Allah, obey the Prophet and obey your rightly guided leaders.’ Be with the Saliheen. Once you start following a friend of Allah, the successor of the Prophet, once you start serving and loving him and knowing how to submit, that’s the time your love for the Prophet (asws) will start to grow. And when that love starts to grow, that’s the time when you understand the greatness of Allah; how Allah is so great that you start to feel shame before the greatness of Allah. You start to feel shame not only of your wrong actions and intention, you start to feel shame of your right actions and intention. You start to feel shame of your worship. You stat to feel shame, saying that you love. Because Allah is so great.
Yeah, step by step. Our intention is to understand how great Allah is. So, to begin the love of the Holy Prophet (asws), sit and be with a friend of Allah. Learn that love and that submission. And that time, your love will start to grow. That time, you start being sincere. And that time, when you start following someone, then you can know for certain if you really love or you don’t. Like the poet is saying, ‘I never knew love until I met you. And I never knew what a hypocrite I am until I started loving you. What can I give you? Anything I can give you, all the treasures, everything, is like putting water into the Ocean….’ that poem continues. That’s enough for a sincere person.
You want to test your love?
Then carry what they carried. All Sahabi e-Kiram carried what the Prophet (asws) carried, didn’t they? Carry the work. Carry each other. Carry each other’s burdens. I’m not even saying, oh now you need to carry each other’s burdens, just at least be nice to each other. Be patient, more to each other. Don’t judge each other more. Forgive each other more. Build Mohabbat (Love) to each other. Then that time, you’ll start building love for the Prophet (asws). People now are judging, immediately. Or when they know that they are right and someone is wrong, they come down so hard on them. Huh, they start giving out ayats and everything condemning them, or warning them, being very strict with them. Maybe that one made a mistake. Especially when someone made a mistake and say, ‘I’m sorry.’ Who are you now you are going to be so hard on that one? Don’t you make mistake?
We make mistake. And Allah is always saying, Okay, I’m paraphrasing again, so many ayats Allah swt is saying, ‘Okay, a person does this wrong, this is the punishment. He is wrong, you are right. You may punish him.’ But, always Allah is saying what? But if you forgive, it is better for you. Only if you believe in it. Only if you know it. If you only know it.
So, InsyaAllah ar-Rahman, we want our love to be sincere. Love is not just pulling a tasbih to say, ‘Allahumma Salli Ala Sayyidina Muhammad….’ And we are saying very simple things but very deep Oceans that our Sheykh is speaking about. Because it is coming from Holy Prophet (asws). One time when I was travelling, this past time, speaking about Sheykh, speaking about Tarikat, I know there are couple of wahabbis around so you know, I have to be very thorough and very concise, I have to grab their attention. I have to read them very carefully before speaking, and during speaking and after speaking. I have to be very careful. As much careful as you are, you know how when people are donkey, they are donkeys. Anyway he is saying, ‘brother, why are you telling us to follow a man? Why don’t you just tell us to follow the Quran and Sunnah?’
I say, ‘you Idiot! This man is teaching us Quran and Sunnah. You have not been listening all this time?’ You see, but they are stuck there.
‘No. Not man. Quran and Sunnah.’
La haula wala, what do you think Quran and Sunnah is? A book? Two books? That you can get from Barnes and Noble, that you open and you follow?
What did Holy Prophet (asws) say to the man who says, ‘ya Rasulullah, I love you.’ That so many millions now, maybe billions, are claiming right now in this month, ‘O Prophet, I love you!’ Huh, isn’t it? So many Ahle sunnah, Ashq e-Rasool, Ashq e-Nabi, they say, ‘we love so much,’ and Prophet is saying to this man, replying to this man who said, ‘Ya Rasulullah, I love you.’ What did he say?
He said, ‘prepare yourself for hardship. Prepare yourself for hardship if you love me.’
So many times, a little bit of hardship comes, you see how much their heart changes and they waiver. And they leave. That’s not real love. And real love is not to expect. Prophet didn’t say, ‘if you love me then prepare yourself for Paradise.’ He didn’t say prepare yourself for Divine Presence, which so many wrong ones are teaching now; If you love Prophet, you are going to be in Divine Presence, you are going to be this, you are going get mystical secrets, all these things.
Prophet (asws) said simply, very clearly, ‘if you love me, prepare yourself for hardship.’
If you are in hardship, both batin and zahir, zahir and batin, whatever is going on inside, you are going through hardship, or outside physically, you are going through some hardship because you are trying to follow this way of the Prophet (asws), then that time you may be a bit more happy to know that you are following what the Prophet is saying and you are experiencing what he said, you will experience if you love him.
May Allah not test us. But, may Allah give us more strength and more sincerity.
Salamu alaikum wa rahmatullah. Al Fatiha.
Hoja Lokman Effendi Hz, Khalifah of SahibulSaif Sheykh Abd Kerim Effendi QS, Osmanli Dergahı NY
December 26, 2014