Tariqatuna Sohbet wa Khayru fil Jamiat. This tariqat it is based on association, and the goodness comes from the association. The sohbet, the association, it gives us the ammunition to fight against to sheytan, against to our ego, against to dunya and to hawa. If you are not in association, if you are not listening, not just listening with the ears but listening with the heart and putting it in your heart and that time the heart will pump to the rest of your body and living it, if you are not listening to association, you can read, you can pray, as much as you can, much as you want, it’s not going to help you. Because you are not understanding yourself.
The sohbet is to make you to understand yourself. Understand your intentions and understand your actions. Put yourself under a microscope and really look and to think, and to understand. That is Tafakkur. That is Islamic meditation. Not meditation to sit somewhere proudly and just trying to say, ‘I empty myself,’ while all the while you are thinking about nonsense things.
No, this is what it is. Association, it is very important. Who gives association? The Prophet gives association. Association is called sohbah, sohbet. And with the sohbet, nafsu amara becomes nafsu mutmain. The disobedient ego becomes an obedient ego. Those ones who were burying their children alive in the hot sand, from that kind of lifestyle, they became Sahabis through sohbets. And we are blessed with the sohbets of the waris, the inheritors of the Prophet, our Sheykh, SahibulSaif Sheykh Abd Kerim al-Kibrisi al-Rabbani, may Allah raise his station higher, and we are asking only that he bless us and he supports us and he forgive us for our weaknesses, because he is our means to the Prophet. He is our means to Allah swt.
This is a sohbet. This is not a lecture. You like it, you take it. You put it in your life, you will see the result. You will win here and Hereafter. You are here, but your heart is not here, you can sit here twenty four hours listening to sohbet on a loop for twenty four hours, you will gain nothing, because you are not putting it in your heart. You may come once a month, once a year, once in ten years. But you are sitting and your heart is absorbing and is putting it into your life, that time, it is so easy for you to make progress in this way. Definitely, in spirit you are closer to our Sheykh than those ones who are in bodies they are close but in spirit they are very far away.
We are thanking our Lord Allah swt for giving us this ni’mat of faith, of Iman, that we are Muslims. That He has blessed us with Islam. We must give thanks to our Lord for that. We must sit down every day, at least to think, ‘Ya Rabbi, Syukur that You have given me this faith.’
The day that you take your faith lightly, the day that you take your faith for granted, the day that you think that you are better than all the others with your faith, that is the day that you find your faith slowly slipping. Slipping, slipping, slipping. That is the time when what you believe is one thing, and how you live is another.
What we believe must be how we live. How we live must be based on what we believe. Like what Sheykh Effendi Hz is saying, ‘if you don’t live the way that you believe,’ we are Muslims Alhamdulillah, we are following SahibulSaif, ‘if we are not living our lives according to the teachings of Islam and the teaching of our Sheykh, then one day you will believe the way that you live.’
If you don’t live the way of Islam and the way of Tarikat, then you are living some other way. You are living a lifestyle that is sunk, serving the ego, running day and night to serve the ego. Not declaring that Allah is the only reality but declaring your ego as the only reality. Doesn’t matter if you call yourselves Muslim, Christian or Jew, Sufi or Sunni, male or female, young or old. Same. And because you are not living according to your belief, one day the lifestyle that you are living; that lifestyle of dunya and the ego, one day, you will start believing in that lifestyle. This is very dangerous. Because our faith has been granted to us. Our faith, it’s an emanet, it is a trust. And if we are not taking care of that trust, and understanding what makes our faith to go up and what makes our faith to go down, one day we are going to wake up and we realise that we have no faith at all. And all we have is our life that is not based on our faith, that is not based on the teaching of Islam or our Sheykh, but again it’s based on our own egoistic lifestyle.
You say that you are following a Sheykh, but you are still following your ego. Because you are not putting his teachings into your life. There is a name for those who believe one thing and they practise another. These days, Sheykh Effendi is making us to speak a couple of times about it. Even on the day of Mawlid, we were speaking about it. What is that?
That is a Hypocrite. A Munafiq.
A Munafiq. A Hypocrite. That it’s so serious in the sight of Islam and Allah swt, that the hypocrites they will occupy a hell that is lower than the hell for the kafirs, for the unbelievers. If you are an unbeliever, there is always a chance that you will believe. Not one chance, millions of chances in your life, even in your death. Maybe one friend of Allah will come and to tap that one to wake up suddenly and to believe there is one Allah. Because that one, like this or like that, once he did something good to a friend of Allah, he did something that the friend of Allah likes and prays for him, mercy reaches to him, an Unbeliever. But a pretender, a hypocrite, a munafiq, that one is blind. That one is completely blind to what he doesn’t have, which is faith. He thinks he has faith. But because his life is not based on his faith, he is living a lie. He is a liar!
They asked the Holy Prophet (asws), ‘Ya Rasulullah, can a Mu’min be weak?’
He says, ‘Yes, possibility. Mu’min can be weak.’ – I’m paraphrasing this so that you understand the point.
‘Can a Mu’min, say, be forgetful(for example)?
Prophet (asws) says, ‘Yes.’
This is the main point that we must remember; they asked, ‘but can a Muslim lie?’
He says, ‘No.’
A Muslim cannot lie. And a hypocrite is the one who is a liar. He lies to the whole world and he lies to himself. He is trying to lie to himself, he cannot, of course. But because he has put so much lies and darkness and heaviness, his heart has become so hard, he cannot see the truth anymore. And he starts believing in his life, and he starts believing in his lies.
May Allah save us. May Allah not make us to be in this category. This issue, this very serious problem of hypocrisy, of being a munafiq, a believer when he hears these words, his heart must shake. He must be fearful. Immediately he must check his words, his actions, his dealings with people, and he is going to check himself and say, ‘where am I being a munafiq?’ Not, ‘if I am or not?’ But, ‘where I am being a munafiq, today, yesterday, the day before, last year?’ He’s going to check and he will find something. That is a believer.
But that munafiq, tauba astarghfirullah, he is not even going to think that he is in the category; ‘This doesn’t apply to me.’ Or if he does, he’s going to think for one second, later he says, ‘Ah! This doesn’t apply to me. I’m a good person. I pray five times a day. I give sadaqah. I do this…and I do that..’
A munafiq does everything too. Didn’t we hear in the khutba; three groups of people, three kinds of people that Allah will question and they will give answer to. And they truthfully say, ‘yes, we forgot you.’
And Allah is saying, ‘What? You forget Me? I will forget you.’ Then that third person saying so much – take this for yourself, I take this for myself, take this for yourself and especially for those that is just every time filled with reasons and excuses, never finishing. When something is pointed to them, like what Sheykh Effendi said: you must kiss the hand of the person that points out something wrong about you and say, ‘Ey Allah, I accept. Thank you for reminding me. This is going to make me to become better.’ Majority murids, mashaAllah, Sufi, so Sufi, so spiritual, majority not only they don’t accept but they have millions of excuses to say why they don’t accept. Millions of excuses. We may have excuse in this world. But like that, in the khutbah, in that Hadiths e-Shareef, that third person is going to say, ‘I worship you so much. I believe in Amantu Billahi. I make Zikr. I do everything.’ And Allah swt saying what?
Allah (swt) will say, “Hold on to your words. Now We will bring the witnesses.” Then that person’s mouth will be shut.
So many times we are saying, ‘this is something that is wrong that is happening in you.’
Immediately he will jump to defend himself saying, ‘because of this…because of this…because of this…because of this…because of this…and because of this…’
And we say, ‘please, first thing you have to do; shut your mouth.’
You are not learning how to shut your mouth, huh?
Then Allah will seal your mouth on the Day of Judgment. And the rest of your body is going to scream at you. So many have not gone through enough, some reminder or some training by Sheykh Effendi. Anything that is negative that we say. ‘No, it is not me! That is not my intention.This is not it….bla..bla..bla..bla..bla..bla…’ So basically saying that Sheykh is saying a lie. Because it is not true and if it is not true, it’s a lie right?
We are laughing some times. Some times Sheykh Effendi is making one of us to be like a clown to joke around, isn’t it? We are laughing. We are laughing at him every time. Are we taking that for ourselves? And when the time comes when we are put in that position, how are we behaving? So many behave worse than that one.
Saying, ‘tamam, eyAllah, Alhamdulillah. Thank you for reminding me. I will watch myself very carefully and I’m not going to do it.’ And believe me, the Sheykh does not say things for fun. So many times he does not move his tongue because the Angels they write it down. His warnings, he’s sending through the heart, he is giving signs, other people are saying, your heart is screaming at you, but you don’t listen. Finally, then he speaks.
And if he speaks and they are recording and you are still not listening, prepare for the big smack to come, and when that smack comes, there is no way you can get out of it. No way! Like now we are saying, ‘how can I get out of it?’ No way. Door is shut. No way out. You put yourself in there.
Are you going to say to Allah swt, ‘oh, I’m in Hell, how do I get out of this?’
Finish! No more. You are not training yourself for that now, that is going to be very difficult.
These words are for you and for me. When we speak, I’m watching, and he’s the one who is holding a sword over my neck. And I don’t speak, I don’t warn, I don’t scream and shout and yell until I swallow and I swallow and I swallow and I swallow and I warn and I see, then finally you are not listening, that is the final station now.
So how are we going to get ourselves out from that category of that hypocrite? Even lying in the presence of Allah swt, isn’t it? How do you think a man can be so blind that even in the presence of Allah swt, he still lies? You think that one can just lie, just like that? You think he didn’t have practise lying to be able to lie in front of Allah swt? He didn’t spent his whole life lying, he can be able to do that?
See the opposite. Understand the opposite now. When Abu Sufyan, at that time he was not yet a sahabi, he went to Heraclius, the Greek King. And the Greek King had some questions to him because the signs are showing that the last Prophet came and he’s declaring himself to be a prophet and they were also waiting for that, these Greeks, at that time, because they were believing in something true. And he said, ‘tell me about this one who declare himself?’
Abu Sufyan start to give an account, saying that he did this and he did this, he stop this and he did this. Heraclius just ask him one question, ‘Did he ever lie?’
Abu Sufyan was caught. Abu Sufyan could not lie. At that time people had honour. He says, ‘up till the age of forty, in fact we were calling him al-Amin.’ There was another title also that they were calling him. They were calling him Siddiq. ‘They were calling him al-Amin, the trustworthy ones. And everyone trusted him because he spoke the truth and he was just. Then at the age of forty when he declared Prophethood, then everyone turned against him.’
And Heraclius said, ‘a man who has not lied once in his life for forty years, it is impossible for him to wake up the next day and to lie. Impossible.’
So now we come to that point; the man, our ego (just say our ego not to say others), our ego, the man, how is he able now to sit in Divine Presence and to lie? In Divine Presence. How is he able to do that?
Easy. He’s able to do that because his whole life he’s been lying to himself. He’s been lying to others. Lying to himself, the tongue, lying to himself. He has so much practise for that that in the presence of Allah swt he will also lie and he puts lies on top of lie, saying, ‘I believe, Amantu Billahi. I make zikr. I do all sort of things,’ and he starts to praise Allah now. He starts to praise Allah swt, in the Divine Presence. And Allah says, ‘stop. Stop. Shut your mouth. Now, the rest of your body speaks.’ This is a big lesson for murids. Shut your mouth. Hold your tongue.
Hold your tongue, pull it. This is the Sunnat of our Sheykh. This is the Sunnat of Prophet (asws) and Hazreti Abu Bakr used to do it. And say to yourself, ‘O my tongue, you are the cause of so much hardship and grief and corruption.’ Don’t look at others. So many are looking at others. Once we question, ‘no, no, no, no, it’s not me. It’s others.’
‘ No, no, no, no, it’s not me. It’s others. It’s other things.’
If it’s not others, it’s other things, other situation. Never they are saying, ‘You are right.’
Try that. Say, ‘You are right.’
You are murids. You are not other ones. You have a beyat, but your beyat is tested every time, and every time we fail. Maybe there are something that you don’t understand, that is completely different. If you want to understand, that is different. When you say, ‘I don’t want to understand.’ And, ‘My story, my version, it is right.’ That time you will be in trouble.
Don’t think when Allah says, ‘Shut his mouth!’ It is just going to, shut like that, shut his mouth. There are other things that happens at that time.
So if you are not practising that, that level of honesty, looking at ourselves, then maybe the Sheykh will say, will blame you for a hundred things, and maybe ninety-nine of those things you are not wrong. I mean ninety-nine of those things, you are blameless. But one thing that you are to blame, that is enough for a believer to say, ‘You are right. I take it. You are right.’
How many of you, how many of us, when the Sheykh is washing people up, we put ourselves in that person’s shoes? Not to feel bad. So many of you have so much emotions. You feel bad. ‘I feel bad for this one. I feel bad.’ Don’t feel bad for them. Feel bad for yourself. Feel bad because you still have not understood!
How many of you, when the person is being washed up or put in a spot, you put yourself in the person’s shoe and you say, ‘this is me. I am the one who did this mistake. I did this mistake, and the Sheykh is actually scolding me. Washing me up. Not this person.’ How many have done that? Sincerely to say, ‘No. He’s not washing up this person. He is washing me up.’
So now, we have to be very careful with these things. Because if we are not training ourselves right now to be truthful, not according to your ego, not according to your life experience, not according to whatever you have picked from books, or TV, or what your parents are teaching you, no, if you are not being truthful and honest and sincere according to the way of our Sheykh, you will be in very big trouble. Very very big trouble. More than those ones who are not in this way. So we have to be careful. I have to be careful. We all have to be careful with this. Because if we are not training ourselves to look at ourselves as Munafiq, as liars, if we are not looking at ourselves as that, so easy our ego is going to trick us, then it’ll be very easy on the day of Judgement, we are going to argue and fight and lie to Allah swt. This is something that is not small. This is something that is very serious.
So yes, the month of the Prophet (asws), so many are just drunk. Drunk in so called love. Drunk. But looking at our lives, we are very far away from that Prophet. Drunk for one hour, two hour, just singing Naats and giving salawats. Drunk, but for the rest of the twenty four hours, for the rest of the seventy-two hours, for the rest of the year, running very far away from that life and that lifestyle that the Prophet came, Prophet (asws) came to teach us this. And his teaching is still very strong with this. And our Sheykh is still keeping us always on a short leash with this. And always telling us, washing us up, to be sincere.
InsyaAllah, may Allah forgive us. And make us to become more sincere and make us to understand and not to become that liar, that munafiq who is always going to have excuses. Once you give an excuse, one wall comes down, a veil between you and your Lord. You give another excuse, another veil comes down, blocking you. Now there are two veils. Another one and another one and another one. The more excuse you give, the more veils that are blocking you. Your heart now becomes completely lost, completely hard. That time, your worshipping five times a day, your fasting, you are making zikr, you are doing everything, but your heart, it is like a stone. Your heart becomes dead.
We are thankful for our Sheykh who is continuously giving us Sohbet to make us to remind ourselves. If we take this, we will benefit dunya and ahiret. If you don’t like to take this and say, ‘I am exempt from this. I am an exception.’ We say, good luck to you. But if we say, ‘I am in this, and I must watch myself,’ then that time, definitely dunya and ahiret, it will be easy. It will open. That is the time, you may make mistake, easy they can cover it for you. Very easy. You make mistake and you break things, easy they can fix it, because you are being sincere. You are starting on the first step on being a trustworthy one.
How we can trust you if you are always lying to yourself? and on that day your body is going to scream to you. Witnesses. That time you are going to scream and say to your body, ‘you don’t love me.,’ like so many here, that’s the time you are going to say, ‘you don’t love me. you always like to get me into trouble.’ That’s the time when we are going to say to the rest of our body that is witnesses against us, ‘Oh you are happy, when i’m sad, i’m crying like this.’
Sheykh Effendi is making us to see that. If you are not taking it seriously, it’s going to be lost. And in this Holy days, more we have to catch ourselves.
Bihurmatil Habib. Bihurmatil Fatiha.
After Jumma sohbet by Hoja Lokman Efendi Hz, Khalifah of Shaykh Abdulkerim el Kibrisi (qs) * OSMANLI DERGAHI- New York
January 9, 2015