Question: Friends and relatives that I see often are sinking in drugs and asking for money. What can I do for them?
When you see them sinking into drugs or they are always in a position where they are asking for money, and maybe the situation is because they enter into extreme difficulty or they make those difficulties to themselves, first you have to ask yourself: what is it that is within my capability to help?
‘What is it that is within my capability to help? Do I have money to give? Even if I give that money, is this going to make them to come out form that hell? Do I have the means to pull them out from that hell of drugs or drinks or other kinds of wrong actions that they are doing?’ If you are sincere, you will come up with an answer. And I don’t think you are that capable of pulling them out. When you understand that this is the limit of what you can do, wisdom enters. Because wisdom is knowing what the boundaries are. Wisdom comes to a man when he understands that this is the limit of what he can do. Beyond that he cannot. The foolish one sees that there is no boundary, there is no limit. And he then, instead of helping, they will pull him to a hell that he was trying to pull them out from.
What are you capable of doing? You are capable of praying for them. You pray for them. What else are you capable of doing? You are capable of keeping yourself clean. Keep yourself clean. But if you are finding that it is difficult to keep yourself clean in an area where those that are around you they are pulling you into that kind of dirtiness, don’t try to be a martyr, don’t try to be such a good one. To help, first, you have to help yourself. Pull yourself out from that. When the airplane is falling, is sinking and the pressure is changing and there’s alarm going and oxygen mask falls, first law of first aid in that kind of situation, emergency action, is to take the mask and to put it on yourself. Not even to help those around you. First, you have to be able to help them and to be able to do that, you have to help yourself. Then whatever that is necessary it will come to you on how to help them.
In these days, the advice that is given to the ummat, not just friends and relatives or muslims or you and me, to the entire ummat, Holy Prophet (asws) is saying, ‘pull yourself out from that mess.’ This world is spinning out of control the way that dajjal is spinning. You are not going to make much of a difference. Wait for the SahibulZaman to come. Pull yourself out. Keep yourself clean. Go to the mountains. Be with those ones who are keeping their lives simple and clean. Call out to those who want this simplicity and this cleanliness. They will come. But for the rest, there is nothing that you can do. Because now, it is a big Tsunami. It is coming. And the advice of the Prophet is not to stand up to that Tsunami. It is to pull back and wait for the SahibulZaman to come. He will stand up and we will stand up with him.
Wisdom is to know when is the time and what is the time to be doing what we are supposed to be doing. If you stand up now, you may destroy yourself and maybe others. If you stand up later behind those ones who are like a mountain, you are not a mountain but because you are behind the mountain, you have the strength of the mountain too. That time you may help so many that are around you.
May Allah make it easy for them, and make it easy for us. May Allah wake them up and wake us up, insyaAllah. And not to test us with the test that is given to so many others right now. Fatiha.
Hoja Lokman Efendi Hz, Khalifah of Shaykh Abdulkerim el Kibrisi (qs) * OSMANLI DERGAHI- New York
14 Jamadilakhir 1436H
April 3, 2015