Question: What should one do at the point of giving up ? When things feel like they are getting on top of you and you feel like there is no way out, what should one do?
Hold on to someone. I’m not saying hold on to hope, hold on to your future, hold on to an idea. Hold on to someone. Even in the world of, say, unbelief, what happens? if you are at the point of like giving up, severe depression or suicide, what do you do? You call somebody, you go to a doctor, you go to a therapist, correct? There’s somebody professional isn’t it? Is it anyone that you are going to talk to get the help? No, you cannot. You hold on to someone.
Now in this way of Tarikat, you are at that point where you feel like giving up, you have to hold on to someone. It’s not to say holding on, ‘oh, I’m just going to ask for medet.’ Obviously medet is not reaching to you because you are at this point of giving up. So you need to speak to someone. You think it is difficult to speak to the Sheykh, speak to his vekil (representative). Difficult to speak to his vekil, then speak to someone that he has assigned, speak to someone who has gone through that. Speak to someone, hold on to someone. Open your heart. Instead of opening your heart to your ego every single day and fighting with your ego every single day and your sheytan, being quiet and thinking and fighting with your sheytan, opening your heart up to the sheytan, speak to someone in the way of Haqq. Open your heart.
If you have any question, ask the Ahle Zikr. That is an order from Allah swt. There’s an Ahle Zikr amongst you. Hold on to them and ask them. Speak to them. Because only sheytan is going to give you hopelessness. Because your ego can make you, what they say in English, British, ‘can make a storm in a teacup.’ One teacup, like a big storm. You are thinking it’s a big storm, but it’s only one teacup. But to you it’s very big. Because you are staring at it. You are not looking somewhere else.
You need to speak. It is the way of sheytan and your ego to say, ‘don’t speak to anyone. Consult with us. Don’t speak. Nobody understands you. Nobody cares. Nobody will listen to you. Just listen to us.’ Ego and sheytan is saying, and you are consulting them everyday. Talking to them back and forth. Fighting with them. But just now to pick up the phone, to text, to do something to someone who has the authority, a professional in this way, why are you hesitating? You are hesitating because your ego is saying, ‘don’t.’ Fight against to your ego. Maybe, it is a storm in a teacup. Maybe, they will take that huge storm and they will put it into a teacup. They have that power to do that too. InsyaAllah, it will be easy for you. Hopelessness is coming from sheytan. Don’t be hopeless. Then that time when you speak to them, listen, be sincere, obey. When you go to a doctor you must obey to the medicine. Doctor is saying, ‘take three times a day,’ you have to do it three times a day. That is your medicine. When you speak to Ahle Zikr, listen to them. Be obedient. That time cure will come to you.
Whatever that you have gone through, it is not something new under the sun. It is something that so many have gone through, especially in this way, thousands have gone through. They’ve gone through and they’ve come back. They have gone through, they can show you the way again. WaminaAllahu Taufiq. Al-Fatiha. Amin. SelamAleykum warahmatullahi Wabarakatu. This much is enough.
Sheykh Lokman Efendi Hz,
Khalifah of Shaykh AbdulKerim el-Kibrisi el-Rabbani (qs)
OSMANLI DERGAHI- New York
12 Rajab 1436H
May 1, 2015