I’ve been on an emotional roller coaster and I’m hesitant to consult with my Sheykh as I don’t want to burden him continuously. How should I proceed?


Question: In the recent months, I’ve been on an emotional roller coaster. I’m trying to obey my Sheykh, listen to what he’s advising me but close ones affect me negatively by bringing up all the worries, concerns and doubts. I don’t want to bicker or argue with anyone. I’m also hesitant to consult with my Sheykh regarding this matter as I don’t want to burden him continuously. How should I proceed?


Well, at the end of the day, you still have to consult. This is what you are doing, correct?

So, you want to obey your Sheykh and you are obeying, and others around you they are pulling you away not to have any faith or obedience, and you don’t know what to do? Easy, you must know what to do. You have a Sheykh, you obey him. You cannot say now, ‘I’m caught between Haqq and Batil; I don’t know where to turn.’ Where else to turn except to Haqq? You want to turn to Batil, you can too. Haqq has its consequences, Batil has its consequences too.

Close ones to you, they whisper things, they say things, of course they are going to. Everyone who is going to be on this path will have at least seventy thousand Sheytans around them, attacking them every time. That is when you have to hold on tightly to your Sheykh. That is when you have to hold on tightly to your connection with him. That is when you are going to look at your faith and you’re going to understand and you’re going to practise. If you’re just going to give in, then you’re going to lose. They are going to win. And if you hold on tightly to your Sheykh that is the time you will win. And maybe, because you are winning, and you are praying for those ones who are around you, even if they are bound towards punishment, because you are praying for them, you may be able to pull them out.

I’m getting, so many times, we’re saying, you want to consult, you consult. We are available. ‘Oh, I don’t want to, I don’t want to, I don’t want to…’ finally when things become so much, finally they consult. But it has become a mountain now. I say, ‘why you didn’t consult with me?’ ‘Well, I didn’t want to bother you with a handful of problems.’ And I say, ‘huh! now you’re definitely not bothering me with a mountainful of problems.’ Maybe when you came with one handful of problems, we can solve it very easily. But, now, it’s so huge now, of course with Sheykh Effendi’s support we can solve it, but it’s going to take more time. It’s going to take more scrubbing.’ Because we never close our doors, maybe if you are speaking and speaking and speaking, and we are saying, ‘do this, this…’ and you refuse to, and finally we say, ‘you know what? When you’re ready to take the advice, then you come. Maybe that’s the time.’

But we’re not closing the door. We’re saying, ‘take these kinds of medicine.’ ‘I don’t want to.’ Then you are going to get more sick. That time, you’re going to get so much disease inside of you, that time we have to apply surgery; it’s going to hurt a lot. You’re going to scream a lot that time.

So, we’re saying, if you’d like to consult, consult. We are still, Alhamdulillah, with Sheykh Effendi’s blessings, available. We are not those big ones that have hundreds and thousands around us, we don’t even know their names, we don’t know what they are, what their problems are, so difficult to reach, no. We are only just a handful of people here and there. We like to remain that way; it’s very nice, very comfortable, it’s very good like that. So, it is not a matter of bickering, or arguing with people. If there is sheytan that is standing in front of you, you’re not going to just smile and put your hand over your heart and walk backwards, trying to be so Sufi and say, ‘ I’m not going to…’ No. You have to stand up.

Stand up doesn’t mean that you are going to fight. Stand up doesn’t mean that you are going to be violent. Stand up means, you know what is Haqq and you know what is Batil and you are standing up for Haqq. Because you are doing that, there is going to be support, there is going to be more faith that is reaching to you. That time, you can be surrounded by people, but your faith is going to get more and more. But, if your connection is not too strong, and they are putting waswasa inside of you, it is better then that time, when those waswasa, those whisperings of Sheytan through other people they are whispering to you, it is better then that time, maybe, in the beginning to try to consult. If you don’t want to consult with a Sheykh, speak to someone who’s close to him, speak to someone who’s been there for some time. Speak with someone who has authority, he may speak, for the sake of that one, and you are going to find your answer.

You’re sitting there, you say, ‘I want to follow my Sheykh,’ you have ten voices saying, ‘no. Do not follow.’ Your connection to your Sheykh is not so strong and you have no other ones around you to say yes, to help you. How are you going to, now, improve? How are you going to understand?

Our way is a Jamaat. Jamaat means we have to be together. In a Jamaat, there will be blessings. You pull yourself away, you may still have a connection, but the wolves and the coyotes outside, they have a stronger connection then what you have to your Sheykh. They have a stronger connection to you, because you are being surrounded by them. Insha’Allah we will wake up. These situations are very simple. Like I said, you don’t want to speak to the Sheykh, speak to anyone. Everyone has gone through that situation before. They may speak, they may say. This is what happened to me, you see, one of the beautiful things about being on this path, is that this path is thousands of years old. Hundreds and thousands, maybe millions have walked on this path before us.

So, you are starting on it, there are so many who can tell you what you‘re experiencing, what you have to watch out that is ahead of you, to your left and to your right. They will be able to tell you, they will be able to help you, while help is still available. SelamAleykum

 Sheykh Lokman Efendi Hz,
Khalifah of SahibulSaif Shaykh Abdulkerim el Kibrisi (qs),
26 Rajab 1436H
May 15, 2015

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