Question: If a mureed feels fear and it kills them inside to think of their Beyat to ever break, how does one deal with this?
If he feels fear and he’s very very afraid that his beyat is going to break, sit down and think what are you doing that you are saying that you are going to break this beyat? Be sincere with yourself. Don’t just deal with fear and concern and anxiety and paranoia.
You can sit and you say, ‘oh, I’m so hungry, oh I’m so hungry. I don’t know, I’m starving, I’m so hungry,’ until you start eating, you are always going to feel that. Correct? Are you going to sit and you are going to wait for the food to drop from Paradise to your mouth? What kind of idiot you are? You are going to go out to look for something and to find something and to eat.
So you are feeling fear, what kind of fear are you feeling? You feel fear that you are going to break the beyat? Then look at yourself. What is it that you are doing that you consider it to be breaking the beyat? If you talk about breaking beyat, the Sheykh doesn’t break the beyat with you, you break your beyat with Sheykh. So many times, a murid tells me, ‘are you praying for me? Are you there?’ I say, ‘I’m always here. I’m not changing. You are the ones who’s leaving.’ ‘Don’t leave us.’ I say, ‘we never leave you. But you are the ones who leave.’ That is the nature of man. If they want something, they’ll stay. They don’t want anything, they leave. They carry on with their life especially. Isn’t it?
In these days, because they were taught to believe their Sheykh is like Santa Claus; when you want something, you run to them. You say, ‘I want this. I want this. And I want this.’ But when you don’t want anything, then you just don’t care for them. So now, what are you doing that you are considering that the actions that you are doing is going to break this beyat? Then be sincere. That is a lot of homework that you have to do now. And how do you deal with that? Don’t run to do things that are going to break your beyat with the Sheykh. Run to help. Run to fix. Maybe when you are running to serve and you are running to fix, even when you are making mistakes here and there, it’s so easy for them to forgive you. But the main idea is to serve. insya’Allah. May it be easy.
Sheykh Lokman Efendi Hz,
Khalifah of SahibulSaif Shaykh Abdulkerim el Kibrisi (qs),
OSMANLI DERGAHI- New York
10 Shaban 1436H
May 29, 2015