‘Lakum Dinukum Waliyadin – to you your religion and to me mine.’ To you your religion and to me mine. That’s it. We’ve come to that point now, the second jahiliyyah. First jahiliyyah, those words are for the musyriks. Second jahiliyyah it is for those ones saying that they are Muslims. We say, ‘Lakum Dinukum Waliyadin.’ To you your religion and to me mine. If my own mother is not following this way, I’m going to say to her, ‘Lakum Dinukum Waliyadin – to you your religion and to me mine.’ Because now, family has also become one of the idols in this ummat. Just like Christians, just like Jews, they say the most important thing is family, most important thing is family, most important thing is family. NO! The most important thing is Allah swt. The most important thing is the Holy Prophet (asws). The most important thing are the Awliya Allah. It is not the family.
Only the believers, they are brothers. Meaning only the believers, they are family. The family, it is only blood. But the blood, it is najasat, do you understand? It is najis. Isn’t it in all four mazhabs, if blood, it is najis. We are not made from flesh and blood. We are made from the spirit. When the spirit they are together, then you are a family. As the Holy Prophet (asws) is saying, ‘there are those when they are sitting together, they know each other. They are very familiar with each other. Even if they are not related.’ That means that from pre-eternity, they were close to each other. Their spirit were close to each other. They were a family before they were being sent to this world. So who is our family? What kind of family you want?
Those ones especially who are making you to go against Allah and His Prophet and His Awliya Allah, that’s not your family. Just like first jahiliyyah, Prophet (asws), he broke the family ties. And the family ties in the first jahiliyyah, it is one of the most important thing isn’t it? It is like an idol. You can do anything but don’t break your family ties. And he broke everyone. ‘Everyone’s family ties,’ he says, ‘now it is to me. To Allah swt. Then to the brothers, the jammat, the ummat.’ Now he starts all the way from scratch again. Not black or white, not Arab or Ajam. Taqwa. Those ones, the best ones, the have taqwa. When you have taqwa that time, you have faith and you have intelligence and you are going to treat people according to their hak, according to your right, according to their rights. That stranger there, no blood relations, but because he has higher taqwa, he’s a good one, now you have to give him that right. Your own brother and your sister, they are against you, your father and your mother they are against Allah and His Prophet, they don’t have the same right as that one. We are not saying to hate them, we are not saying to fight with them. No, we are saying now, ‘Lakum di Nukum Waliyadin – to you your religion and to me mine.’ Now there has to be a separation. When are they going to get united? When they say, ‘La ilaha iallah MuhammadurRasulullah (asws),’ and in the way that the representatives of the Prophet they are putting Islam to be. Not in the way that the ego is saying. Do you understand? Because your father, your mother, your son, your daughter, your husband, your wife, is not going to help you in the grave. They are not going to help you in the Judgement Day. There are those who are going to help you. First person who is going to help us is the Prophet (asws) and those that are given the right of intercession, syafa’at. Who has the right of syafa’at? That one who loves his family more than anything else, making his family to be an ilah?
So you are not building your relationship to the family of the believers huh? Only to your family? Watch out. Be careful, you may lose so many things. So many are saying, ‘well, our family also goes for zikr, also attend sohbet.’ Don’t play games with yourself. See what it is, your responsibility and your role there. What it is? Where is your heart? Finish. Where is your heart? Where do you want to be? Where do you prefer to be? That time you cannot lie. If you say, ‘yes, I prefer to be here, to be listening to sohbet, to make zikr, to be in the Dergah.’ ‘No, I prefer to be at home, to be with my family.’ That time you will know where your heart is. You understand.
So, we are not just any jamaat, any group of people. We are in Tarikat. We are walking to completely different rhythm. Different rhythm. Our hearts must beat differently. Our walk must be different. Our thoughts must be different. It cannot be the same. If it’s the same then you shouldn’t be here. It’s like you are saying, you want to learn how to become a doctor, but you say, ‘what? I have to study so much? I just want a normal life. Why can’t I have a normal life?’ Like so many men and women saying in Tarikat, ‘why can’t I just have a normal life? Why everything has to be this, everything has to be that?’ Then you say you want a normal life? Don’t study medicine. You can have a normal life. But if you are studying medicine to become a doctor, to know that at least for four years, if not more, you have no life. Your life is just hitting the books. Then later you become even more busy isn’t it? Which means, anything that you get into in this dunya that has some value, you cannot be normal, regular. Now, we are looking to be in the footsteps of the Prophet (asws) to the highest stations, to the station of the Sahabi, and you want to be normal? What kind of idiot thinking is this?
If you think this is difficult, oh you are just fooling yourself. We cannot even come close to how the murids were one hundred years ago. You cannot even come close to what they are doing. If they look at us, they are going to laugh and said, ‘this is a murid? This is tarikat?’ Do you understand? At the same time, what is it that is so hard and so difficult? Are we saying to people: you are only going to wear sheepskin, you are only going to go to the well to take your water, you are going to stay up all night to be worshiping, you can only eat barley and wheat and nothing else? We are making things difficult? We have everything. Check your refrigerator, you have so much. Check your houses, you have so much. Check your own wardrobe, you have so much. You have so much of this dunya that Allah is giving us, to the murids of this twenty first century, still we are complaining. We have so much, we should complain less and we should do more. Not complain more. You want normal, regular life? Go back to your own luxury houses. Go back, where you came from. You came from where? New Hampshire? Go back to New Hampshire. You came from where? Alaska? Go back to Alaska. You come from where? Florida? Go back. Have your own regular life now. Go ahead.
No one is under here, coming here with a special invitation. No one I’m saying, ‘please your majesties, stay here. Don’t go.’ No one. You are coming here not for me. You are coming here for yourself. If you are coming here for the sake of Allah for yourself, then that time Allah will make this dunya to be under your feet, as you yourself you understand how the dunya become so easy and there’s so much barakat. You don’t have to stress and worry about the dunya so much, correct? Whole life that you are working, you are earning or you are not earning, always stress. You don’t know where the money is going to, is finishing. And there is no satisfaction, no ease, no contentment. And you are coming with sincerity, suddenly it’s so easy. One, two, three, everything falls and you have the ahiret too. Alhamdulillah.
But Muslims are starting to complain so much. Never ending they are going to complain. You have a job here, you have a duty here, don’t drop it. Whatever that we are doing outside here and there, that is secondary. Do you understand? Whatever small work that you have here, watch it very carefully, because you are working outside maybe they are not watching every movement that you are making over there. Here in the Dergah, what is a Dergah means? The ‘Der’, the Der ‘vish’, the Der ‘gah.’ Which ‘gah’ is it? The ‘gah’ means, courtyard. Courtyard of who? The Divine courtyard. The ‘Der’ is right on the threshold, the threshold into the Divine courtyard of Allah. That time the Tajalli is different. The look, it is different. Be very careful when you are here. Do everything properly. Are you understanding? You do one thing, check and check and check again. Because they are looking. Maybe your only job here is just to take water and to put it here. Maybe that is your only job. You do so much work outside, it’s not equal to just pouring one glass of water and putting it here to serve other people. I tell you, it is not equal! The woman who takes one glass of water when the husband comes back and gives him to drink, that service that she is doing for the husband, it is worth more than ten Hajj that she makes. The whole point is service. But I see so many people running away from service here. Or they are complete ghaflat. Or they are coming in as a tourist! Hearts are dead! Stubborness coming over. Coming empty, leaving empty! And we are warning you in this month, Be careful, because if you don’t change, pretty soon you are going to say, ‘you know what? This is too much for me.’
We say, mashaAllah. Too much? What did I ever ask from you?
‘No, no, no, no. This is too much for me. I cannot take this any more.’
Take what? Take what? What are we asking from you? You understand? Then they are going to say, ‘I have to excuse myself.’
So many they have left. No, not so many. Some. They left. And we are seeing to some, we are seeing the signs. Be careful. Sheytan is playing games with you. Be careful. It’s turning. Be careful. It is up to you whether you want to listen or not. So many times I get messages from people saying, ‘O Sheykh, O Hoja, please don’t leave us. Please don’t leave us.’ I said, we never leave you. I’m always here. You are the ones who are leaving.’ Always, they are the ones who are leaving. You leave, you come back, you leave, you come back. We are still here. This is my job.
So you are here in the Dergah, whatever job that you are doing, you are watching, because why? Allah’s look is here, and they are saying, ‘when you are in the presence of the askiye, watch your tongue, what you speak. In the presence of the criminal, watch what you speak, watch your tongue. In the presence of the Awliya, watch your heart, what your heart is saying.’ Because they know what is in your heart. Watch out. But people coming back and forth, they don’t care for nothing. Then what are these sohbets for? You are tired of listening? I’m tired of speaking. But no, I will not be tired of speaking because that is my job. If I have to say it one million times, I will say it. You will get tired from hearing but I will not get tired from repeating because my Sheykh is listening too. And he wants me to say, to remind you. If there’s nothing, he says, ‘remind them.’ Just that.
So we are seeing the signs and we are still giving warnings. Why are we giving warnings? If we don’t care, we are not going to give warning, at all. We may even smile, we may even praise you. And we say, do whatever that you want to do. But we give warning. We say, ‘watch out. Be careful because the end is no good.’ The one who betrays his Sheykh, the one who turns away, Sheykh Effendi gives one sohbet speaking about that, you can be living inside the Ka’aba, praying twenty four hours, it’s not going to be accepted until his Sheykh opens the hand and say, ‘Ya Rabbi, accept this one.’ That is the power of intercession. You understand?
But murids they are very spoiled. They are not watching, they are not learning. Wake up. This month of Ramazan. You don’t want to be here, I don’t want anyone who don’t want to be here. Anyone who doesn’t want to be here for iftar or for tarawih, or for zikr, don’t be here. And I can see from your face whether you want to be here or you don’t want to be here. Just as if you are hungry and I put a plate of food in front of you, or somebody puts some food, do you need to be a saint to know that this person is hungry and he wants to eat the food? Huh? Do you have to be a genious to know? No. You can see very clearly right?
We are putting jewels in front, then people they are blank. You understand? That’s why tonight I don’t feel like giving jewels. We are putting and they are staring blankly. No good. Be careful. Your heart must be alive. This words are for me and for you. May Allah forgive me. Al-Fatiha.
Sohbet by Sheykh Lokman Efendi Hz,
Khalifah of SahibulSaif Shaykh Abdulkerim el Kibrisi (qs),
OSMANLI DERGAHI- New York
8 Ramazan 1436H
June 25, 2015