Alhamdulillah, Alhamdulillah, Alhamdulillahi Rabbil Alamin. Wasalatu wa salamu ala rasulina Muhammadin wa ala alihi wa sahbihi ajmain nahmadulllahu ta’ala wa nastaghfiruhu wa nashadu an-lailaha ilallahu wahdahu la sharika lah wa nashadu anna sayyidina Muhammadin abduhu wa habibuhu wa rasuluhu salallahu alayhi wa ala alihi wa azwajihi wa ashabihi wa atbaihi.
Khulafail Rashidin mahdin min ba’di wuzerail immeti alal tahkik. Khususan minhum alal amidi khulafai rasulillahi ala tahqeeq. Umara il mu’mineen. Hazreti Abu Bakr wa Umar wa Uthman wa Ali. Wa ala Baqiyati wa Sahabai wa Tabieen. Ridwanallahu ta’ala alayhim ajmain.
Ya Ayyuhal mu’minun al Hadirun, ittaqullaha Ta’ala wa ati’uh. Inna Allahua ma Allathina -Ttaqaw wa-Lathina Hum Muhsinun. Alhamdulillahi Rabbil Alameen. Wa Salatu wa Salamu ala Ashrafil Ambiya’i wa Imam al-Mursaleen, Sayyidina wa Mawlana Muhammadin, wa ala alihi wa sahbihi ajmain.
Alhamdulillahi Rabbil Alameen. Wa Salatu wa Salamu ala Ashrafil Ambiya’i wa Imam al-Mursaleen, Sayyidina wa Mawlana Muhammadin, wa ala alihi wa sahbihi ajmain.
All praises are due to Allah, Lord of the Universes. All praises are due to Allah who is the First, the Last, the Manifest, the Hidden, the One who has Might and Power over all things. All praises are due to Allah who sent His Habib, Sayyidina Muhammad (asws) as the Mercy to the Universes.
And may all peace and blessings be upon the Sultan of the Prophets, the Imam of the Messengers, the Master of the First and the Last, the Intercessor of the sinners, the Most Honored One in Divine Presence, Sayyidina Muhammad (asws), and upon his noble family and blessed companions, especially upon the Khulafa-e-Rashideen, Hz. Abu Bakr el-Siddik, Hz. Umar el-Faruk, Hz. Osman el-Ghani, and Hz. Ali el-Murtaza, and all those who follow them until the Last Day.
Ya Ayyuhal Mu’minoon! O Believers! Welcome to you on this Holy Day of Jummah. Welcome to you as we have passed through the Days of Hajj and Kurban, and as we are approaching the end of this Islamic Year and preparing to welcome the New Year. Welcome to you as we are preparing and getting ready for the Holy Day of Ashura. Welcome to the Believers who are preparing themselves in these holy days and nights, and who are awake and aware of these times that are honored in the Heavens and the Earth.
O Believers! Holy Prophet (asws) is saying, ‘The most beloved of Allah’s servants to Allah are those with the best manners.’ And he is saying in another Hadith Sherif, ‘Nothing is weightier on the Scale of Deeds than one’s good manners.’ And in another Hadith he is saying (asws), ‘I was only sent to perfect good manners.’
And Hz. Ali (kw) is saying, ‘Knowledge and good manners are the value of your soul, so strive to achieve them, for however much your knowledge and good manners increase, so will your value and worth accordingly.’
This Way, the Way of Rasulallah (asws), the Way of the Sahaba-e-Kiram, the Way of the Evliyaullah, it is the way of good manners. Because the Holy Prophet (asws), he is the one with the best manners. He was sent by Allah (swt) to teach the best manners to the Bani Adam, to all of mankind. Allah (swt) is saying in the Holy Quran: Verily you have tremendous good manners, a great character. (68:4). And the Believers must walk in the way of the Holy Prophet (asws), they must follow that Sunnah of the Holy Prophet (asws). And Holy Prophet (asws) is giving a good news to those people who are becoming people of good manners, saying, ‘The dearest of you to me and the closest of you to me in the position on the Day of Judgment are the best of you in manners.’
So what is good manners? In these days, 21st Muslims, we have lost the sense of good manners. Because we are not connected to the people of good manners. If a person is not connected to an Inheritor of the Holy Prophet (asws), he cannot have true good manners. And without a connection to that inheritor, to a Friend of Allah, to a Sheykh, a person’s manners are going to be fake. A person can put his head in silence, he can put his hand on his heart and walk backward, he can smile at every person, but if he’s not being guided and trained by a Friend of Allah, then those manners are just going to be insincere. Because good manners, is not to put something to you. Good manners in reality, it is to get rid of the bad characteristics of the ego, it is to get rid of the bad manners of the ego, and to make the good manners of your spirit to come out. And one of the Evliyaullah is saying about the Prophet (asws), taking knowledge from him, that Evliyaullah is saying, ‘Destroying an existing bad characteristic of the ego from the heart is more difficult than digging a mountain with a needle.’ So in reality, good manners is to understand yourself. Good manners is to understand your ego, to fight against that ego. Good manners is the meaning of the Hadith: The one who knows himself, knows his Lord.
As Hz. Abdullah ibn Mubarek is saying, ‘People have talked a lot about good manners. It is enough to say that good manners is knowledge of yourself.’
Sultan el-Evliya Sheykh Mawlana Muhammad Nazim Adil el-Hakkani (ks) is saying, ‘Don’t think that good manners is easy. Knowledge can be learned by everyone, good manners only by very few. Oh believers, try to reach high good manners. It will make you much more acceptable in the Divine Presence. It will put your ego down and mercy and blessings will rain on you. Be humble enough to come to someone who has been authorized to teach people good manners.’ And the Evliyaa ullah they speak the truth.
And our Sheykh, Sahib el-Sayf Sheykh Abdul Kerim el-Kibrisi el-Rabbani (ks), he is that Sheykh of Edep who is teaching us the Edep of the Evliya and Rasulallah (asws). He was the SahibulEdep of that time. He is saying, teaching us: Think about a tree. The trunk of the tree and the roots are like a man’s faith. The branches are like the good deeds that he is doing. The leaves are like the knowledge that man has. What’s the most important thing on that tree? The fruit. If you don’t have the fruit then why are you raising that tree? Spending time for nothing. So faith, good deeds and knowledge must teach a man to give fruit and the fruit is good manners. If you don’t have good manners then you will be kicked away from the Divine Presence. If you don’t have good manners then the people who have good manners will kick you away from next to them, or they will send you away, or if they cannot, then they will go away. In the old days people were saying, because of that Hadith Sherif people were saying, good people, people with good manners were saying, “Good manners may make an animal to become a human, good manners may make a man to become king, Sultan.”
And Seyh Efendi is also saying: All nations they have lost their compass, they lost their direction, they lost their ways just because they lost the teachings, just because they lost their good manners. Everyone does whatever they want. “Nobody tells me what to do. I do as I like.” You cannot. It looks like you are doing it but you are just preparing your end to be in suffering. If you are not knowing what you are doing, if you are not consulting with olderly people, if you are not running to take their advice then you are just preparing damage to yourself down in the road. So we must look and we must check. If we want safety in Dunya and Akhirat then we must look, we much check and we must understand where we are and what we are about.
All Shariats, all Tariqats, all teachings, all knowledges, everything is teaching man how to have good manners. All orders saying, “Do this” and all orders in which Allah (swt) is forbidding us saying, “Don’t do this”, it is to teach us good manners. The one who has good manners is entering to Paradise. The ones who don’t have good manners are closing the Paradise doors to themselves. It doesn’t matter where you are sitting. You can be sitting in the masjid 24 hours but at the end of your time Sheytan puts the hook and pulls you out. You can be inside the dumpster all your life but if you are always acting with good manner then in the end Awliya puts the rope and pulls you out from that mess that you are in. Allah (swt) doesn’t leave His good servants, the ones who have good manners to suffer in the end.
Our work, as believers, as murids, is to become the people of good manners. Our work is to learn good manners according to the teaching of our Sheykh, to be in consultation, to fight against to our ego, to fight against to our anger, our stubbornness, our arrogance, our envy. We must discover all of that in ourselves. If you are not discovering that in yourself, if you are already thinking that you are alright, and you are not throwing it out from yourself, either you are going to be stuck, or your ego is going to reach to you and it’s going to pull you down more and more. You are drunk in that station and it’s very difficult then to wake up. You and me, we have that to do. And that is the work of our Sheykh, that is the work of the Dergah.
If we keep ourselves busy with that work, we will be in safety insha’Allah. Our Sheykh is always repeating the words of Hz. Yunus Emre who is saying: Edep it is a Crown from the Light of Guidance; Wear that Crown and you will be safe from every curse and disaster.
And today is the anniversary of the Shahadat of one of those Mountains who wore the Crown of Edep, Hz. Osman el-Ghani (ks). Today is the anniversary of his martyrdom. And we are remembering him and we are asking for his support insha’Allah. Holy Prophet (asws) was saying about Hz. Osman: Osman has the most shyness (haya’) in my Ummah, and he is the most honorable. And that good manner of Hz. Osman made him beloved to Holy Prophet (asws). Holy Prophet (asws) said, ‘Every Prophet has a close friend in Paradise, and my close friend in Paradise is Osman.’ and it is that good manners that made Hz Osman not even raised one finger to defend himself when he was reading the Quran e-Kerim when those rebels came to martyr him, to assassinate him.
O Believers. These are our examples. There are the stars that we must follow. In these Holy Days and Nights of Zul Hijj, we should renew our intention to walk on their Path, on the Path of Edep. Insha’Allah, that time, we will be counted as being close to the Ones that are Beloved to Allah and His Prophet. Amin. Insya’Allah ar-Rahman.
Jummah Khutba by Sheykh Lokman Efendi Hz,
Khalifah of SahibulSaif Shaykh Abdulkerim el Kibrisi (qs),
OSMANLI DERGAHI- New York
October 2, 2015.