Question: What are we supposed to do when someone is jealous of us?
If you know the person who is jealous of you, you should give him a present. If that person is a female give her a present, bake some cookies, give it to her. I am serious. Make that one your friend. When you start being generous to that one who is jealous of you, you are going to break that person’s ego that sheytan is going to be very upset with you, and you are going to have more protection. But understand first, are you doing anything sincerely to make that person to be jealous of you or not? Some people they think they are so innocent. But look, say, ‘did I do anything? Did I make a show? Did I do this? Did I hurt this person’s feelings?. da..da..da..’ All, so many things you can ask. If the answer is still no, then don’t show yourself.
These days, it’s all about showing yourself. Everywhere they want to show themselves. They put on minutes, hourly updates. Shaykh Efendi is saying. ‘Now I am going to eat.’ Take a picture. ‘Now I am going to the toilet.’ They take a picture. They say, ‘I am going to toilet, this is my status.’ They are showing everything and everything that they are showing is fake anyway. If an alien were to come to earth and they just check the Facebook to know about people living on the earth, they’ll say, ‘this is Paradise. Everyone is smiling, everyone is so nice. There’s party going on every single moment.’ Of course there are some Sheykhs who believe in aliens and give a lot of sohbets about the aliens saying,’when Prophet (asws) went up, went everywhere to the Mi’raj, he saw aliens.’ I don’t know. That’s too high level for me. We are still stuck here on earth trying to fix our ego. We don’t care about alien, malien.
Don’t show yourself. Once you start showing yourself, once you start showing off, whether you know or don’t know, of course people are going to put eyes on you. In the old days our grandparents, our great grandparents they know, they know something. When the children are very cute, they always take something, some black mark and they put it here, they put it here, they put it here (on the face). They put it when they are born, to take away the bad eyes. If the children have a cute name, they change it. You see why the parents always seem to be so angry whenever this kid, always cursing that one, belittling that one, putting that one down. See, this is a nice kid, very handsome kid, very beautiful. This is for a reason there. But all these are lost traditions.
So there is not much protection. We can’t even protect our own children these days because everything the children do, they want to show off. Astaghfirullah. May Allah make it easy for you.
Sheykh Lokman Efendi Hz,
Khalifah of SahibulSaif Shaykh Abdulkerim el Kibrisi (qs),
OSMANLI DERGAHI- New York
21 Rabi al-Awwal 1437
December 31, 2016.