Why is it so hard to start back up physically and spiritually after we’ve fallen?


 Question: Why is it so hard to start back up physically and spiritually after we’ve fallen, why does it seem that everyone around us is progressing but we are the only ones being held back? How can we get pass this, what guidance and advice can you give to us as a mureed?

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Don’t care about other people. Don’t. Don’t look at this one is like this, look to yourself. Look to yourself and look to your guide. Look to your Sheykh, look to your Prophet, look to Allah. Don’t look to anyone else. Why is it so hard to pick up? Because you have fallen down. You ever, when you are walking, when you trip and you fell down? Yes, it hurts right? Then you get up. Now what do you do when you fall down? You look to see what made you to fall down. Why is that? So that you don’t fall down in the same way again.

So okay, you fall down, that’s  it, okay. Now you cannot just fall down and start crying. That’s not going to do anything. Now you have to see, ‘I fell down because of this.’ Now the intelligent ones is going to say, ‘why I trip on this? What happened? What was I thinking? What was going on in my mind? What made me to come to this kind of situation again and again?’ Then you come to the conclusion, ‘ah okay, I’m like this because I’m being an idiot. Because I was in ghaflat. Because I was heedless. Because I was stupid, I was crazy…’ because of that. Once you start saying, because…because…because…because…because, you are finding reasons. So now you are going to say, ‘I should not be like this. I should not be like this. I should be more awake.’ So, those things now, when we fall, when we do wrong things, pick yourself up, understand the reasons.

When you do something wrong, run to do something right. Don’t just now, get up, start crying, look around and continue crying. Now run to do something right. Maybe what you can do when you trip over something on the road, you are going to pick that thing and you are going to put it somewhere else so that nobody else will trip over and hurt themselves. When you do that, you’ve already fulfilled one of the seventy-three branches of faith. You understand? To remove something harmful from the way is one of the seventy-three branches of Islam. Islam is divided into seventy-three parts, the most important part of this branches is to say, ‘La ilaha illallah,’ which majority is denying, ‘don’t say La ilaha illallah. Don’t say the zikr.’ That is the biggest. And the smallest is to remove something harmful on the way.

It doesn’t just mean something that is physical that is there, you understand? It can be emotional. It can be psychological. It can be helping someone, that someone is in a very terrible situation, and he has no one to talk to, no one understands maybe, and you are there, just to smile, just to say a couple of words, just to make the person to be good, you are removing that thing that is harmful for him, you are fulfilling a branch of faith. This is the tradition of the Prophet and the Awliya. And if you are in Tarikat, whatever that you are going through also it is not for nothing. Remember all these. Because it’s not going to stay like that. One day it’s down, one day it’s going to be up. When you are up, never forget that you are down. When things are going so well, never forget, don’t forget, and this is something that you have to practice over and over again, when things are going great, never forget how it was bad. And when things are bad, never forget how Allah has blessed you.  Because man is created in what? In haste. We rush. So we don’t think.

So you cannot rush. You have to think. That time you are going to be balance. Especially in Tarikat, the ups and downs that you are going to go through in life, you are going to go through in a very condensed manner, in Tarikat. Because we have a long journey. You are not going to go through mid-life crises in your mid-life. You are going to go through mid-life crisis when you enter into Tarikat. How old you are? Fifteen. Mid-life crisis. Twenty-five. Mid-life crisis. Thirty. Mid-life crisis. You have to get that over. ‘Who am I? What am I doing here? What does this all mean?’ Aren’t these the questions of md-life? Yes. Aren’t these questions of Tarikat, spirituality? Yes. Once you finish answering, then there is other things for you to do. It’s not just to sit around and to answer the question, which if we reach fifty, sixty years old, even if we find the answer, you are no good for nothing. You finished. You finished your mind, you finished your body, everything is bankrupt then. So when you ask it earlier, so now you are ready to go on a journey, to be with others on the journey, to bring others on the journey. SelamAleykum Warahmatullahi wa ba rakatu.

May Allah forgive me and bless you. I will see you soon, insyaAllah ar-Rahman. Alhamdulillah, it’s very warm here. Yesterday it was kind of cold, today it’s pretty warm. Syukur Alhadulillah. One day hot, one day cold. What can we say? Whatever, wherever Allah send us, we will go. Final destination is our grave. Wherever we are going, it is to put good things into our grave. Don’t forget that, insyaAllah. Selamaleykum Warahmatullah. Al-Fatiha. 

stock-vector-vector-vintage-borders-54193183 (2)Sheykh Lokman Efendi Hz,
Khalifah of SahibulSaif Shaykh Abdulkerim el Kibrisi (qs),
12 Rabi al-Ahir 1437
January 22, 2016.stock-vector-vector-vintage-borders-54193183 (2)

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