Question: I am alone and have not visited Dergah. When Friday comes, I try to feel happy but there are no such happy feelings or special feelings. How do I make Friday more special?
Whether we feel happy or we don’t feel happy on Friday, the Friday is still special. It’s not whether you feel happy or you don’t feel happy that makes it special, it is how special you make it.
Don’t think special equals to happiness. Are you trying to make some extra prayers before the Fajr on Friday? Are you, in the Fajr of Friday, are you trying to make extra prayers? Are you making extra zikr on Friday? Don’t concentrate on feelings, just because you feel happy that makes it special. Concentrate on making Allah happy, not on you being happy. If Allah is happy, you are going to be happy. And everything that Allah has created, that is happy with Allah, is going to be happy with you. Are you thinking how special this Jumma is and why it is special? Are you reading some special surahs that is for the Friday? Are you, these days Allahua’lam if people even make the ghusl on a Friday, are you preparing yourself, putting your clothes, making this Friday special? No you are not. You are concentrating on trying to be happy and thinking happy thoughts. No, it doesn’t work like that.
One thing, I’m not going to tell you what to do, because you can find out what to do on a Friday. And if we say and people don’t do, it’s going to be very heavy for you. One thing that you can do on a Friday, it’s very easy, Prophet (asws) is saying recite Salawats, a lot. And he gave a specific number. I’m not even going to tell you how much that is. If you recite the salawat and it’s a small number, all your sins of eighty years will be forgiven. It means your whole life sins will be forgiven. Are you believing in that when you are reciting it? Are you thinking about all the wrong things that you have done and that can be wiped out by the salawat and the mercy of the Prophet (asws), are you doing that? or are you concentrating just to have happy feelings? Astaghfirullah. Because our feelings are not to be trusted. Trust more on the feelings of Allah.
You are doing everything, your ego doesn’t like it. Ego says, ‘what is this? I have to clean myself, I have to cut my nails, I have to wear perfume, why I have to bath? I don’t like this. This means nothing to me….da..da..da..da..’ You are going to tell yourself, ‘who cares what you think? Allah likes this. The Prophet likes this. It is enough. I’m not doing it to please you or myself. I’m doing it to please Allah. But I’m not feeling sincere about it.’ You don’t have to be sincere. Since when you are sincere? Say it to yourself. Say it to your ego. And in reality, whatever actions, good actions that you are doing, that you fight against to your ego, that time the sawab and the rewards is much higher than something that you are just doing and there is no fight. Are you coming to the masjid early, to be nice and comfortable, to read some Quran?
People they even know how to be early to watch a movie, so they get the best seats.Correct? But Jumma, we are watching, people coming in and out like thieves. This wahhabi sheytan, they are saying, ‘no, you must go in, and you must go out to look to the dunya. Because Allah says, ‘then run to the dunya.’
Insya’Allah when you start changing it to try to make Allah happy, you will find that happiness. And, that time, the Friday is going to be special. I remember the first time really that I feel the Friday like a bayram, was here at the Dergah. And that time, it was just a handful of people. It was less than what is here. And we are praying at Sheykh Effendi’s porch. And it was like a late spring early summer too. After that we had tea and coffee. There was no live telecast, like this, broadcast. But Sheykh Effendi was still giving sohbet. It was nice. It was relax. And I felt like it was bayram. Because we prepared ourselves before that, and after that, we are not rushing to enter back into the world. We are just sitting back. All these are lost traditions anyway. In the old days, Friday you don’t work. In the old days, Friday, the men will take one day to clean themselves, to go to the Hammam. The women take another day to go to the Hammam. The whole day, from they are going to go praying in the masjid for Fajr, and from Fajr until the Zuhr time, they are just going to relax to do a couple of things. And from the Zuhr time until the Jumma time, after that they are also going to sit. It is completely separate from their everyday lives.
This is what it was in the old days. They invite each other to their houses. They have tea. They spent time with each other. Just like in the bayram. Who’s doing that these days? Because we are running to the dunya. People don’t even have any community. They have a lot of friends, they have a lot of fake Facebook friends, Facebook follower friends, but they have no friends. With the mercy of our Sheykh, at least we can say, I remember one murid saying, ‘you know I’ve been having the same friends that I see every weekend almost for the past seven years.’ And that relationship builds. Especially in America, how are you going to have friends like that? They don’t even have that kind of relationship to their families. But this is provided to us, it’s given to us. This community. Be careful with it. Hold on to it.
May Allah forgive me and bless you. Al-Fatiha. Amin. SelamAleykum Warahmatullahi wabarakatu.
Sheykh Lokman Efendi Hz,
Khalifah of SahibulSaif Shaykh Abdulkerim el Kibrisi (qs),
OSMANLI DERGAHI- New York
15 Rajab 1437
April 22, 2016.