Question: How do we remember death better every day?
BismillahirRahmanirRahim. The remembrance of death is actually very scary. It is not just you say when you remember that you use to be poor and now you are not. The remembrance of death it is a very fearful, very heavy, when you are remembering it sincerely. It is not just, ‘oh, I stop breathing,’ or ‘I’m not here anymore,’ or ‘one day I’m going to be gone, what’s going to happen?’
No. The believer knows that if Azrail comes to us right now, we’re in big trouble. That fire is real. In the Miraj, the Prophet (asws) spoke about the reality of the Hellfire. He spoke about the reality of the angels of hell and the punishment that is waiting for us, of this ummat, waiting for this ummat, that is real. Read a little bit maybe, because these days everyone is talking about love, but you know it’s not working. Maybe we should talk about fear, because the fear of Allah it is real. The fear of Jahannam it is real. Maybe when we speak about fear a little bit more, this is something the West is saying, ‘Oh, fear is the worst thing.’ No, fear is the best thing. Fear is going to stop you from doing the wrong things. You smoke, you don’t fear cancer or heart attack? Then smoke. Then, why is the Government putting all those warning signs everywhere? Some Governments they even put on the box, ‘smoking kills’. Why are they putting fear there?
Every law is not promising you love. Every law is promising you fear, isn’t it? ‘If you break this law you are going to get this punishment’. Isn’t that instilling fear in you? It never says ‘if you obey this law we are going to love you, we are going to give you this and we are going to give you that.’? No, no. In fact, they say, ‘if you obey, good, so what? That gives you the right to be living here in this world, in this country.’ No one is coming out from the traffic lights, when you stop at the traffic lights obeying the law, nobody is coming out from the traffic giving you a bunch of flowers to say, ‘Congratulations, you obey the law. Masha’Allah, I kiss you, I hug you,’ and they go, no. ‘You obey the law, that gives you the right to live as a human. You break the law we will punish you.’ Isn’t that fear?
The Miraj it is filled with warning. Yes, there is tremendous hope. There is also tremendous warning. The Prophet (asws) he is a bringer of glad tidings, and he was also a warner. Never forget that in these days when we have turned this whole world into a hell, it is not glad tidings that we need, it is warning that we need. This is something that nobody is doing anymore. They are not warning individuals, or groups, or regimes or Governments.
You have Ghaflet, we all have Ghaflet. Be with the Ahle Zikr because those are the ones who remember. If you are remembering often, you are not going to forget. The ghaflet it is the opposite of zikr. If you are around people who remember a lot, you will stop being in Ghaflet too. They are moving like this, you are moving like this, you’re seeing them, ok, let me try moving like this. They are saying, ‘today is Wednesday, today is Wednesday.’ You say, today is Tuesday but let me see, these are nice people, these are good people. They say today is Wednesday, so what if I say today is Wednesday? What am I going to loose? So you say, ‘today is Wednesday.’ If you start saying, why I should be, in reality today is Thursday, why they are saying today is Wednesday? They are wrong. They say today is Wednesday, I say, no, today is Thursday.’ That time, like the story Sheykh Effendi always says, you’re going to get the double hunch, the double hump. That has happened to so many people. You see instead of them getting rid of their bad characteristics, they get worse.
Where that moment of ghaflet hits you, you have to look at that. Where that moment of ghaflet hits you. It’s not just ghaflet. Where? You’re driving, you’re driving, suddenly something, happens a deer comes and, boom, you have an accident. You kill the deer. We must speak from experience. West is teaching us it’s just an accident, it can happen to anyone, correct? We’re in Tarikat, nothing is ever just an accident. Before that happened, now we must think, we cannot just say, ‘I don’t know. It just suddenly, it comes.’ no. Now go back, rewind. This is what’s going to happen on Judgement day. Rewind to that time. So many of us say, ‘I don’t know. I was forced to do it. I don’t know what happened to me. He made me to do it, this one,’ but never looking at how the steering wheel was in our hands, not in anyone else’s hand. Now that moment where you slip and you hit, now rewind to that moment. What were you doing? Were you listening to something and not watching the road, what were you doing? That road is open. I remember what he said, you can see almost one mile, why you are not seeing it coming? Where was your heart, where was your mind before that happened? And it also didn’t happen just like that, because so many of us when we are confronted with something it just doesn’t, time seems to slow down for us to react.
I still remember, maybe you should not have speeded up, maybe you should have slowed down. That one was speeding trying to over take it, going this way. It’s coming, coming, coming. My thinking was to slow down and let it pass. So there was still time to react. When you start to rewind and you start seeing it, this is called Taffakur, then you say this is how it happened, it wasn’t sudden. Rewind, rewind, rewind that moment, I could have just said this, I could have just did this, I could have just slowed down. You’ll find an answer then that time. Then that time next time you pass by that road, that spot, that exit that you had that accident definitely you’re going to remember. Its impossible that you don’t remember and definitely you’re going to remember and some part of you is going to say ‘slow down and look,’ until you die. What is making us, when we’re going down that same road, to forget? What is making us to do that? When we are not blaming ourselves and when we blame others, we say no, no, no it’s because of the deer, it’s because of the other traffic, it’s not because of us. Then definitely you’re going to make the same accident over and over and over again. When you say, no, I should have done this, then that time when you see it coming you say, ‘what can I do?’ Because you’re the one with the car, no? Then you’re going to say, now I must change the way that I’m driving so that I don’t have the same kind of accident. Okay, you’re doing good, sometimes one time, two times, one month, two month, one year, two years, then you meet another accident because, that time, you’re just, whatever happens, something zonk in your mind and you just, make the same accident, and you say, ‘ah, how can I make the same accident?’
Good, that time sit down, and think, and give Shukur, you didn’t kill anyone. So you gave the control to your ego, one time to sheytan. Stop that now, stop, try to go back, think, then continue. Don’t stop, continue. InsyaAllah that way it will be easier for us to live this life. Be with the Ahle Zikr. It is important, it is very important. Selam Aleykum Wa Rahmatullah.
Sheykh Lokman Efendi Hz,
Khalifah of SahibulSaif Shaykh Abdulkerim el Kibrisi (qs),
OSMANLI DERGAHI- New York
30 Rajab 1437
May 6, 2016.