Question: How can we be real in our actions and our faith, lifestyle?
First you are going to do it over and over again. At first it’s going to be fake. If you are so used to doing things your way, someone tells you, ‘no, do it like this,’ first you are going to say, ‘this is not me.’ You are going to say, ‘I know who I am.’ Those words are the most arrogant words ever. You don’t know who you are. And if you are saying in this situation in the Dergah in this Jamaat like that, ‘Oh that’s not me.’ We say, what are you doing here?
If you know yourself, then you must give light to everyone. If you are struggling to know yourself, you will give light to everyone. Because the more you are struggling, the more that you are rubbing, ego doesn’t like it, but the more that you are doing that, it is shining you are going to make a light, you are going to make a fire.Like what I said last Friday, you are struggling, Nur is going to appear. People are going to look at your face and they are going to like looking at your face. This is one of the meaning of waking up for Tahajjud, that your ego wants to go to sleep, it’s screaming at you but you say, ‘No.’
So, what is our intention? What is your intention? (Sheykh asking a murid. Murid reply saying, ‘to have good manners.’) Good. That is enough. To have good manners. That is a beginning of an endless ocean. To have good manners. The person who sincerely he wants to learn good manners, never he is going to say, ‘I have manners.’ He is always going to say, ‘I don’t have good manners. I thought I have but I don’t. I can always learn.’ First, you are going to push yourself, it’s going to look as if it is fake. You are going to keep on doing it until it becomes natural to you. Then one day up one day down, may be it is going to come. Sometimes it’s going to be good then it’s going to hit you to be so heavy, you may be out of focus for a while, you have to come back on. You are not going to say, ‘this is not me,’ because we are following the way of the Awliya and the way of the Prophet (asws), we are not following our own way. Definitely it is not us. We are here not to follow our own way. We are here to follow the way as Allah has commanded us: ‘Ihdinas Siratal mustaqeem siratal lazina an amta alaihim ghairil maqdhubi alaihim waladhallin.’ To follow those in the way, in the path of whom you have favoured. If you don’t want to follow those ones then follow your own way. Then let’s see what’s going to happen in the future. Everything has to have its effects and consequences. But everyone has to know their limits too. What is given for you. Right now it is not given to anyone to wash up anyone. Maybe some people they are new. Definitely they don’t understand. Now you are not going to have that authority on them.
First, what do you have to do? Don’t look so far, look to the Prophet (asws) when he was given Prophethood, did he come immediately and he is telling people what is according to Shariat? No. He tried to win their hearts and he tried to win their hearts even before he was a Prophet (asws). He didn’t just try to, he won their hearts. What we are doing to win the hearts of the people that are around us? What are we doing to win the hearts of that one that is in front of us? Maybe we understand something better than others. If it is given to us to say something then first you have to understand that one, understand his heart.
The authority is not given to you. You have to be very careful with people especially if they are new and they are just coming, that they may not understand so many things. How long it took us to understand, hmm? Years. How patient was Shaykh Effendi. Years. It took the mushriks in Mecca 23 years, almost one generation to accept. Then why are we being so hard and why we being so stubborn? You are looking, ‘Oh! Hoja is doing this, Shaykh is doing this.’ It’s not given to you. You are not going to do it the same way. You don’t know. Do you know how long we have worked to have relationship with each and everyone. You think it’s easy to get the trust of a person. You think if it is something that oh! So easy it comes and it’s fake that we are able to do this?
Person comes he may not understand, may be he likes us, he likes Shaykh Effendi, he likes SahibulSaif. He is going to do a 100 things. 99 of the things they are wrong, one thing it is right. You are not going to look at those 99 things that are wrong. You are going to look at the one thing that is right and you going to say, it is good MashaAllah. But he is going to say this this – wrong ideas wrong thinking. Doesn’t matter, it is not that time for you to teach yet. You want to teach, you are going to consult. Then we are going to tell you step by step what to do. If you are connected you will know what we are going to say anyway. They say, ‘just leave them to be like that for a while.’
I am talking about new people, who are coming from outside who don’t know, never met Shaykh Effendi physically duh duh duh. Here in the Dergah, slightly different. People who been here for sometime slightly different, definitely.But we cannot be like that to be too unforgiving. Doesn’t matter. Let them InshaAllah. You understand? Slowly they are going to come around they going to understand. Yeah. This much is enough. Fatiha
Sheykh Lokman Efendi Hz,
Khalifah of SahibulSaif Shaykh Abdulkerim el Kibrisi (qs),
OSMANLI DERGAHI- New York
19 Shaban 1437
May 26, 2016.