Question: Could our Sheykh gives us women an advice about what we could do when people from our past come to try to trick and play with our ego and to remember us who we used to be in our time of jahiliyah?
BismilllahirRahmanirRahim. You have to stop your ears from listening. You have to concentrate on the mercy of Allah that is reaching to you now that we have left all that jahiliyah days. Doesn’t matter if it is a man or a woman. Person who is going to remind you of your past, of the wrong things that you have done in the past, that one is sheytanic anyway. A sheytan, “remember you used to do this. Da da da… it is nothing.” Are you worst now or are you better? You are trying to be better, you are being around better people, you are trying to do better things, you are trying to do better. But you are better. Someone is saying, “No remember you are like this,” this is sheytan, he is not making you to become better, he wants you to go back to it. Don’t fall to that trap.
You may feel a little bit sorry maybe. You remember, feel little bit sad, get up again and say “I am not sad. I am happy that my Lord has pulled me out. I am very happy. That He could have just left me there and I could have gotten worse and there are millions of people that they are not pulled out from that mess and they getting worse every single day. But He pulled me out and I am very happy. And I am only going to remember that, my past, when I pass my limits and I become arrogant, I became stubborn, I become proud, then I am gonna say “Ops, remember what you did before”. That would just going to bring me back again to safety. It is not going to bring me back to the fire.
They are sheytans. Leave them, don’t talk to them, don’t listen to them. Anyway, if you are following a Sheykh’s advice about spiritual life, you should only listen to what your Sheykh is saying. Don’t listen to anyone else’s saying. Your mother, your father, your brother, those who know you all your lives, are they following your Sheykh and following him properly? No they are not. They don’t know you. Because they might know you all your life but your Sheykh knew you in your lives before and he is seeing what your life is going to be. So stop your ears from that. Are you looking, are you doing the same things? No you are not. Finish it. Cover it. That’s not a sign of a Muslim to uncover things like that anyway. Allah is Sattar. So cover it. Because Allah is Sattar, you don’t open it up too. Allah is covering, why you are opening? Other people are not opening but you are opening. It’s not necessary too. Why are you doing that? To make yourself feel better. This is why, because they teach in western societies the more you confess, the more cleaner you are going to become and after a while the confession becomes a show. More people they are confessing too, more high you’re going to get, more they’re going to be the witness to the wrong things.
The whole point is not to have any witnesses. If you do a crime and there is no witness, you might get away with it, especially in Islam. You do the crime, wrong actions between man and woman, there is an accusation; the accusation is not enough to punish you. The Judge is going to say “Are there witnesses?” If there is no witness, it’s out, you are not going to get punished. You may be doing wrong things, sitting together doing other things, but not for the crime that they are putting it on you. You are doing it openly and making the whole world to be witness, that time even if they want to cover it up they can’t. They cannot, because everyone is witnessing. And in Islam, who are the witness? Can anyone just be a witness? The witness to that particular crime I am speaking about, if that one is a known liar and is a witness, his testimony is going to be thrown out of the court anyway. And they have to have four witnesses, to have separate witness, separately not for someone to see calling all together, all see and talk among themselves, No. There are very specific laws in Islam. I mean, please, we had an Empire. We ruled an Empire for 1300 years. Of course there is something very sophisticated there that has been set in place to bring people from Jahiliyah to high level of civilization and enlightenment. Of course that is there. That sophistication is there. But everything is thrown out and destroyed. What are you going to do? The enemies, they throw out and they bring the gypsies up to represent the religion, this is what we getting.
So, not necessary to speak. Who can speak is not for us. Maybe the Sheykh may speak. But the Sheykh is going to speak always, especially when he is giving a Sohbet, is for a lesson. It is not to say that is a bad person. It is to say this is the lesson for everyone, you can fall into that trick in that trap very easily. Maybe you being used as an example is going to bring more sawab to you, more blessings to you because you are being example, teaching other people through your own experiences. But anyway, the Sheykh is never going to open you up. He is speaking things in general. There is something there for him too, for others. So we should cover it as believers and InshaAllah Rahman that way we can start to clean ourselves, clean our actions, and our intentions. May Allah forgive me and bless you InshaAllah. Al Fateha. Amin. .
Sheykh Lokman Efendi Hz,
Khalifah of SahibulSaif Shaykh Abdulkerim el Kibrisi (qs),
OSMANLI DERGAHI- New York
12 Ramazan 1437
June 17, 2016.