We ask from Allah. Some people in Tarikat believing that a Sheykh is just there to guide then he is going to leave you alone and you walk your way. Do we ever leave our Prophet? Never. How can we leave those ones who are representing him? Guide to where? Is our journey ever ending? Our journey is never ending.
You say you don’t need a guide, after a certain way you don’t need it, here you do. Because we need a guide here on earth, we need a guide in the grave, we need a guide on the Day of Judgement. If you enter to Paradise too you need a guide. Do you know, if I tell you go to America you are going to find a Dergah here. Without a map, without someone to call, without someone to show you, without a guide, you know where it is? It’s just one continent. Say you go to Paradise, do you know what your address is? Do you know where? If you enter in the wrong way, wrong Paradise, you’ll get punished. It’s not yours.
We are just speaking today too. Tarikat is perfection of manners. Manners. If people are making mistakes because they are weak here and there, it’s easy for Allah to forgive him. Because of the weakness, it is easy for Prophet (asws) to offer the syafaat, it is easy for our Sheykh to intercede for us. But if a person does not have manners, it’s very difficult. We are just speaking little bit today. Tarikat is to teach you manners, and manners, what is manners? Manners is knowing what is Allah’s rights and what is your rights. Meaning, what is Allah’s rights? What is the Prophet’s rights? What are other’s rights? What is their rights, for that time, for that situation, for that country, for that gathering, what is their right? In the old days people will not even step into someone’s land without their permission. And if they have to cross from their place to another place, someone’s land, like Sheykh Effendi’s mother, I didn’t mention that. Sheykh Effendi’s mother, Sheykh Effendi is saying, they will pass, the old, elderly people that they spent their whole lives and generations just studying manners and becoming very strong with manners, that time, your heart opens. Allah will be your teacher. You don’t need to read books. You know what manners is. Manners, it will bring you to Divine Presence. Allah will not want anything else from us. We cannot bring anything to Divine Presence. He is not going to ask you your Ibadat. He is not going to ask you your lineage, He is not going to ask you anything but He is going to see what are the manners. If you have the proper manners, you may enter.
We just mention that, Bayazid al Bistami (qs), the manners in Divine Presence is: Only Allah Exist. That is the manners. So in the old days, they are walking to other people’s land like Sheykh Effendi’s mother, may Allah grant her more health insya’Allah, when she would pass, after she pass over to her own land or public land, she would take her shoes and she would hit it together so that all the earth goes back into the land where it’s supposed to be, that she is not taking the right of that person’s land with her. How else are you going to treat your neighbor properly? And what is neighbor in Islam? Forty houses to the east, forty houses to the west, forty houses to the north, forty houses to the south. Forty houses. Every directions, those are your neighbours and the rights of the neighbours in Islam it is so great, that the Prophet (asws) said, ‘I thought the rights of my neighbour is going to be much higher than the rights of my own family.
We are trying to build that neighborhood here. We are trying to have that spirit and what it means to be a Muslim neighbor. When there was an Empire, it was very easy. When there was a Khilafat it was very easy. When there was people that as the years go, their knowledge and their edep increase yearly, it was easy. Now, it is impossible. It is very difficult but we are here and we are trying.
Today, like I said, nobody thinks twice. Oh, they go, go, go, go, go on the road ops you make the wrong turn, you enter to someone’s driveway and you just make a turn around. So what? We are in Tarikat, you don’t understand? So many of us, I’m speaking from very simple language, very simple example. You are filling up your gas in the gas station. American style, you fill it up, you go to the store. You buy things you don’t need, chips and mips and soda and moda and everything, and you come back while there is a line waiting. ‘Ah, it’s there,’ take it out, you finish and you drive off. This is an action Sheykh Effendi really really really does not like.
Edep is a feeling, a sensibility. Because we explain, everyone understands. Correct? ‘oh yeah. Of course. I don’t like it when I’m behind and I see a car in front, the driver is not there. He’s busy doing what else in a convenient store, and his car is just idling there. They finish, gas is done, the pumping is done but it’s just sitting there while we wait for him to come back.
Rights. Muslims used to have the most beautiful of manners because we are following the most beautiful of the mankind, the Holy Prophet (asws). That Allah says, ‘I have taught him. He is of a tremendous character.’ That Holy Prophet (asws) is saying, ‘my Lord has taught me the most beautiful manners. That once upon a time, not too long ago, Christian look at the Ottoman and say, ‘why don’t Christians become more like this muslims? They are so sober, they are so wise, they have such good manners, they don’t get so dramatic, they don’t get so emotional, they understand and they are kind people.’ Now there are more Muslims, billions coming, everyone very proud to say there are more and more and more Muslims, more everything. More money, more power, more everything, but Islam, yok. Manners, no. It’s not there. It’s finish.
This is what we are trying to build here. So you don’t watch what you speak, you don’t watch what you see, you don’t watch what you say, you don’t watch what you hear, with that, what kind of fasting are we doing? If you don’t watch the manners in the month of Ramazan, what kind of fasting are you doing? Fasting of just staying hungry and being thirsty. That hadiths is for us, it’s not for other people. We should watch. Otherwise that hadith applies to us that all we get from our fasting is just hunger and thirst, all we get from Qiyamulai, maybe worship a little bit, it’s nothing but just tiredness. Because manners, it separates the believers from the unbelievers. It separates the believers from the hypocrites. This is what we are trying to learn here and we must learn. And in such a Holy night like this, we are asking Allah to increase our manners, increase our intelligence, to take away ghaflat from us, to put the fear of Allah in our heart. to take out the fear of the unbelievers and the fear of this dunya and the tyrants, for us to live clean and to die clean, insya’Allah. Fatiha.
Sohbet from Leylatul Qadr by Sheykh Lokman Efendi Hz,
Khalifah of SahibulSaif Shaykh Abdulkerim el Kibrisi (qs),
OSMANLI DERGAHI- New York
27 Ramazan 1437
July 1, 2016.