Question: I have forgetfulness in general. However, during your sohbets I try to pay attention very carefully, soon after the sohbet is finished, I do not remember much from the sohbet. What is the reason for this and how may I fix this problem?
The Problem is you are forgetful, and the way to fix this is don’t forget. Take it slowly. Don’t take everything too. You want to eat, no matter how hungry you are, you have one whole chicken in front of you, you cannot swallow everything at once. You take a little bit, you have to put in your mouth and you have to chew, then you have to swallow. Don’t try to take everything.
So look what is there for you. You know you forget so many things, take one thing. Don’t take ten things. Don’t take as if every sentence is important, I mean every sentence is important, but you cannot remember nothing, you admit that you remember nothing, good, then Insya’Allah, if you are watching this, you remember just one thing. One thing. This whole night, whole hour we are talking about, just take one thing. If this is what you remember that Hoja is saying, just remember one thing and that’s all you remember from the whole night, that is enough. You understand? Like I’m saying, if you are not in sohbet, training yourself to sit, to look, to listen, to think in sohbet, if you cannot train yourself to do that, it doesn’t matter how much time you spent next to a Sheykh, next to an Awliya, next to the Prophet, nothing is going to stick. Nothing is going to stick. Because you are still listening with your ego. You are listening and everything is circling around, it’s not sticking. You have to learn now. So you have to have certain discipline. So many things that is happening to you, you have to pull yourself back, you are going to take one thing and you are going to say, ‘okay he is saying tonight, just take one thing,’ just by that, that is already now one step.
Forgetfulness, because you are thinking too much. Too much nonsense things circling around, you cannot make that distinction now between what is important and what is not important. For that to happen, like I said, there must be some discipline. If you want to learn discipline, you can come to our Dergah. Welcome to you. You are going to learn discipline a little bit. You are not going to be able to learn discipline from watching Youtube videos or reading books. Insya’Allah, may it be acceptable. SelamAleykum warahmatullahi wabarakatu.
Sheykh Lokman Efendi Hz
Khalifah of SahibulSaif Shaykh Abdulkerim el Kibrisi (qs),
OSMANLI DERGAHI- New York
25 Safar 1438
November 25, 2016