Today’s main form of idol worship is the family. It’s not Allah, it’s not the Prophet (asws). It’s the family. Family has become the most sacred thing, more important than Allah, more important than the Prophet (asws), more important than the Evliyaullah. Correct? Nothing is more important than family. Which Prophet said that? Which ayat is saying that? Which saint is saying that? Oh, there’s some people here and there, east and west, saying that. We are not in the way of spirituality and Tasawwuf to follow certain sayings of people here and there. We follow the footsteps of the Prophet (asws). Do you understand? Following in their footsteps.
You cannot claim to follow in the footsteps of the Prophet (asws), than once in a while you want to follow the footsteps of dajjal, once in a while you want to follow the footsteps of sheytan, once in a while you want to follow the footsteps of your ego and then come back and follow the footsteps of the Prophet. You cannot do that. We are weak, we do that sometimes, that’s understandable but don’t mistake their footsteps for the footsteps of the Prophet (asws) which people do. They mistake. They don’t mistake, they only fool themselves.
So they say the family is the most important thing. Which Sahabi said this? Or do they say, ‘may my family be sacrificed for you Ya Rasulullah,’ or do they say, ‘may my father and my mother be sacrificed for you Ya Rasulullah,’ or do they say, ‘may my children be sacrificed for you Ya Rasulullah,’? And they didn’t just say, they sacrificed their father, their mother, their husband, their wife, their children, for the sake of the Holy Prophet (asws). When you have that attitude, when you have that passion, when you have that love, that you sacrifice everything that you love, you sacrifice yourself for the way of the Prophet (asws), when you have that, then you are in their footstep, that time you have complete faith. Because Holy Prophet (asws) is saying, ‘you will not have complete faith until you love me more than you love your family, your father, your mother, everything that you own. You will not get complete faith until you love me more than you love yourself.’ Correct?
But today, they are saying, the most important thing it is the family. Maybe one way or another, I’m not agreeing to it even outside of the context of Tarikat. Even outside the context of Tarikat, you must make Allah and His Prophet priority. This is not only Tarikat, oh make Allah and His Prophet priority, outside of Tarikat, you don’t make Allah and His Prophet priority, you can make everything else priority. No it is not. This is a Muslim. And Islam stood strongly for thirteen hundred years because of that. They were sacrificing their traditions, they were sacrificing their way of life, that when Islam, when Hakk came and they said, ‘we realized this and we put everything. These are traditions, it is not in the way of Allah and His Prophet, it’s causing confusion, we put it aside.’ They don’t bring it along.
So many are going to take my words and twist it. So many may say, ‘oh, he’s saying don’t love your family, don’t take care of them, don’t respect them.’ That’s why they are saying, spirituality is not for everyone because you say one word, they misunderstand it in a hundred different ways. How are you going to now make progress in spirituality where you have to explain every word that you say. You cannot. And the person who needs more and more and more explanation, that he doesn’t get it, then he should go for other kinds of training before he comes to the way of Tasawwuf. Because the way of Tasawwuf it is not through arguing and I’m trying to understand that way. It is already knowing and understanding. Life is going to teach you. Experience is going to teach you. You will understand yourself, then that time you will understand your Lord.
So, your family, they are not causing you any confusion in the way of Allah and His Prophet (asws), very good. They are causing you confusion, you draw a line. Your attachment to them is causing you confusion in the way of Allah and His Prophet, you draw a line. Because you don’t belong to them, they don’t belong to you. Your father does not belong to you, your son does not belong to you, because we all belong to Allah SWT. That son, we did not make that son. That daughter, that children, we didn’t make them. It is a trust from Allah. But west is saying, your children they are yours.
So you don’t possess anything. You don’t possess anyone. Your own flesh and blood you don’t possess them. They are creatures of Allah. They are around you, they are your trust. You are entrusted with them, you have to take care of them. So we should run away from this modern form of idolatry. Run to have a clean faith. Because if we are not going to be tested with the things that we love, it’s very difficult for us to find faith. May Allah not test us. We are not asking for Allah to test us. But we are asking Allah to give us strength and clarity to understand what is bringing us closer to Him and what is a barrier, a veil, between us and Him. Because we will come to that day, soon that day is going to come to us where there’s no more father, mother, brother, sister. We are all going to stand on that day on that plane, on Judgement Day, and we will not even recognize each other. We are going to be without any clothes on. Open and naked but everyone is going to be so heavy thinking about all the wrong things that they have done, to be facing Allah SWT, that they are not even going to look at each other. No, you are not going to say that time, ‘O my son, O my daughter, let me take care of you my darling.’ No. You are going to look at yourself. Because that is real. That is real. When you have that attitude, you can balance it. We have that attitude, you love your son, your daughter, your parents, your husband, your wife, you will balance it. You will not start worshiping them. Because you worship only Allah.
May Allah forgive me and bless you. WaminaAllahuTaufiq. Al-Fatiha.
Sheykh Lokman Efendi Hz
Khalifah of SahibulSaif Shaykh Abdulkerim el Kibrisi (qs),
OSMANLI DERGAHI- New York
19 Jamadial Awwal 1438
February 16, 2017