How do we teach our children to have love for the Holy Prophet (asws)?


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Love of the Holy Prophet (asws), and I’m speaking about people who are in Tarikat, you must put that one who the Prophet has put to you, on top of your head, and to love that one. Once you are starting to love your guide, your Sheykh, definitely you start loving those whom he loves. And he loves the Holy Prophet (asws). You will learn what that love is. Because you are not taking it from yourself, you are taking it from others. You are taking it not from your ego, you are taking it from a source of Haqq. You are taking it from the inheritor of the Prophet (asws). Then you start changing your life. You start changing your lifestyle. You start having more sunnats. Everything that you are doing in your life, in your actions, in your thoughts, your desires, you are going to remember Prophet (asws). You are not just going to remember him only in the mahfil, only in the milad, only in a kawali, then after you go back to nationalism, or you go back to dunya, or you go back to politics. No. You can be speaking about all these things, but you are going to remember the Holy Prophet (asws) as well.

Majority of the people they don’t have that skill. They cannot. Only Sheykh Effendi is teaching us that. Seriously, we cannot. He can talk about politics of today and link it to the history and to the Holy Prophet (asws). But this is the thing, people are believing that this world is disconnected from Allah, we have to change ourselves if not Allah is not going to change us. But where do you think that change is coming from? Ourselves? That time you are making a shirk. It is coming from Allah. You have to ask help from Allah. And you have to go according to what Allah SWT has put for you. Not according to your own way.

So when the parents they don’t have proper love, how the children they are going to have love. Because it hasn’t pass their throat yet, it hasn’t sunk to their heart. Once it sinks to their heart now, and their heart is beating, and the whole body now becomes alive because of that love, now you are going to teach your children very simple things, very simple sunnat.  You don’t even have to tell them, ‘this is sunnat of the Rasulullah (asw).’ No. You are doing it. You have that light of the Prophet (asws). Every sunnat that we carry is giving light to us. And the child is going to see that. You think fourteen hundred years, although Muslims have always been educated, you think for fourteen hundred years, majority of the people, the Muslims, they are super educated like what we have today? No, they were not. They were not even educated necessarily about Islam. But, they were living Islam. They don’t have to go to classes of aqidah or conferences, to learn about the pearls of Islam. They were living that. They were not doing anything else other than that. How you think that love that comes? That there are still so many people today, in certain society, they don’t know what they are doing,  they know it’s right, but it’s actually sunnat. Because, once you start putting that sunnat into your life, you start giving the rights of the Prophet (asws) and start giving the rights of Allah SWT, you are not looking at your rights. You are looking at their rights first. Your heart will be soft because of that. And that, your children can easily pass.

It’s not just about bringing your children here, telling them stories about the Prophet and the Sahabis and everything. You cannot compete with that too. Even if you gather your children and you tell them stories about what happen in his life, what happen in the companions’ life, they go on that internet and they hear millions of other stories that is more interesting than the story you tell them. Do you understand? Of course we have to learn the history. Of course we have to teach the children these are the events that happened. But, it is making the events alive that is going to give life to that love. Not just to say these are the things that’s in books.

We celebrate every year Karbala here, correct? But we are looking at Karbala and we are looking at what is happening today, this year, that connects us to that. Not just to look at Karbala as an isolated incident but Karbala is happening every single day. This is something I’ve seen only Sheykh Effendi do. And he’s asking us every year: what are you? Are you a Yazidi or are you a Husayni? Are we standing on the way of Haqq, even knowing that we are going to be killed, and this especially applies to us now, or are we going to be on the side of Yazidis or those ones who betray, thinking, ‘well, I have to save my life. Saving my life is the most important thing.’ And they lose their faith, they lose this dunya, they lose the Hereafter.

Yes, it is not just a matter of Salawats too. Now, we are looking at everything is here, it is a lifestyle. Bring them to the Dergah. Because now, you can be in the Dergah, I’m not saying we are doing everything hundred percent. Far from it.  We are not doing anything hundred percent. And what we are doing also, we cannot compare with what those ones are doing hundred  years ago. But, we have our Sheykh in front of us and we have his presence here very strong and we have some discipline, to other people it’s so much discipline they are scared even to come here. But to us, it’s nothing and it’s some discipline.  We know for instance how to enter into the bathroom, alhamdulillah. We know how to eat properly. We know how to have manners. So now, you want to teach the love of the Prophet (asws) to your kids, first teach them manners. When they know how to sit, when they know how to be quiet, when they have respect, they will have love. You cannot have love if you don’t have manners and respect. That kind of love, it is only Sheytanic, selfish love.

So, if the parents are not taught, then you cannot teach the children. If the parents are taught, even when they are not teaching the children, the children they are going to understand, and they are going to pick it up. Because when we have the Maulid here, for instance, if you see  that Mahfil that we have here is completely different from the Mahfil you have outside. One thing, sohbet is important. There’s no sohbet in Mahfil. You come in, imagine now you are a kid and you don’t understand nothing, you understand how boring it is? Do  you know how boring it is? If you are a kid now you are a teenager, and your parents they are not opening up, they are not seeing everything, they are not showing the beauty of the Prophet (asws) through their lives, through their understanding, through their actions and through their manners, do you know how boring it is for someone to just sit and everyone is reciting Salawats and everyone is pretending to cry and you have to pretend to cry, you are dying to get out, then it just becomes another habit. It didn’t sink. It didn’t go pass your throat yet. Then, thinking, ‘Oh, love to the Prophet (asws) then is I just have to have this overwhelming emotional response to it, then that is love.’ That is not love too. ‘when I get very emotional,’ and they see, oh, this one cries a lot. So that must be love. This one gets up, he does crazy things, so that must be love. Then you are not looking at the Prophet (asw), you are not looking at Hz Abu Bakr Siddiq, you are not looking at Hz Umar, Hz Osman and Hz Ali, how they are showing their love to the Prophet (asws). All you have, you are showing, is just your own style.

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Sohbet it is important. With the sohbet then we can live. If there’s no sohbet, you don’t know how to take, what to take and you don’t know how to apply it in your life. That time you can have the Quran in front of you, but you are not going to believe. With the sohbet, we don’t have to have the Quran because the sohbet, it is Quran. There’s one lady that came to Sheykh Effendi one time in 39 street and one of the first time that I saw Sheykh Effendi speak in a very jalal way. She is saying something, arguing with Sheykh Effendi back and forth and Sheykh Effendi just say very strongly and say, ‘whatever I’m speaking, it is Quran, it is Hadiths.’ Some people think, oh it’s just a Sufi thing to say. But the sohbet it is about opening up the Quran. It is about opening up the Hadiths. It is about understanding how to serve our Lord. Understanding  the words that He has sent, understanding the words and the actions of the Holy Prophet (asws). We are not talking about anything else. But if you don’t have the sohbet now, how are you going to understand the Quran. That’s why everyone takes the Quran, they memorise it, but they are going to go to hell. Because they are going to memorise it and they give meaning to it according to their nafs. This much is enough. Fatiha. Amin.

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Khalifah of SahibulSaif Shaykh Abdulkerim el Kibrisi (qs),
27 Jamadial Awwal 1438
February 24, 2017

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