Question: Lately I lost my interest to both worldly and spiritual matters. Nothing excites me, nothing for this world and my namaz has no spirit in it. I barely make my zikr, feels like lost my passion. What is the reason for this? How can I gain back my passion for the ibadats?
You are alone too much. Be with the Saliheen. Be with people who are passionate. Either you are alone or you are just surrounding yourself with people who don’t have passion. If you’re alone, you’re just surrounding yourself and being busy with just your own thoughts, your own malayani, maybe your own ego. Definitely. Because your heart is not moving.
How did the Sahabi’s heart, how did they move? Of course Wahhabis they are going to say, ‘because Allah turned their hearts,’ of course Allah turned their hearts. That’s a given. But how did their hearts move? Because of the Prophet (asws). And how did their hearts move towards Islam? Because of their love of the Prophet (asws) that they fall in love with Islam. So in order to have that passion, be around passionate people. Talk to them. Learn from them. If you have a Sheykh, then he may knock you wall to wall. That is what a Sheykh must do to clean you. If he’s sitting there just praising you, run away from him. He wants something from you. But if he is knocking you wall to wall and he doesn’t ask anything from you, he doesn’t want anything from you then stay a little bit, see if you have changed for the better. But be around people who have passion that is going to influence you.
Everyone thinks that they are so unique. Everyone, alhamdulillah, Allah has created us unique. That is a testimony to His own Uniqueness, that He has never created anything that is a duplicate. Not two drops of rain, not two snowflakes, not two people, not even the two steps that you make, your whole life, can be duplicated. Testimony to His Oneness. But this world wants to make us to be the same while saying that you can be different. You can only be different, the world is saying, by following us. It’s finished then. That time you are finished.
So don’t think that you are so unique. Be humble a little bit. Be around those ones they’re not looking whether they are unique or not. They’re not looking whether they are interesting or not. All those things doesn’t matter to them too much. What matters to them is how to increase the passion that they have for the way of Allah. Everything else then will fall into place. Insha’Allah, when you start doing that, if you don’t have a Sheykh, find one. If you have a Sheykh, learn how to understand and to obey and to take from him. If you don’t have a Sheykh, find good people. Because, as Hz Ali (kw) is saying, ‘the man’s religion, it is according to the religion of his friends.’ So who are you hanging out with? ‘I’m not hanging out with anyone.’ Then you are just hanging out with your Sheytan and your ego. That’s all. And never are they going to say ‘have passion for Allah.’
Insha’Allah ar-Rahman, it is not only the passion for the ibadats. That is also a stage that, a phase that you go through. You love to worship, you love to worship, it’s so good, okay, but what if you don’t have a passion to worship? Are you still going to worship or not? Most people, they just leave it. So our relationship to that is still like human’s relationship. They want to have romance all the time. If there’s no more romance, they say the marriage is dead. Correct? They just want that honeymoon period. If there’s no more honeymoon period, than it’s finished. They only want that phase that you feel strange and you feel strong, that even the Greeks in the early days they say when you fall in love, in that stage, in that initial phase, in that very young phase, that is a sickness. It is not mature yet. The mature love it is completely different. And the maturity of love it goes on and on and on and on. It is never ending.
So we want that mature love. We don’t want that love that is only selfish, ‘because I feel something, so it’s good for me. If I don’t feel it, doesn’t work for me. Once that love turns away from you to the object of your love, then you may move forward a little bit. Do you understand? May Allah forgive me. Selam Aleykum.
Sheykh Lokman Efendi Hz
Khalifah of SahibulSaif Shaykh Abdulkerim el Kibrisi (qs),
OSMANLI DERGAHI- New York
17 Rajab 1438
April 14, 2017