Empty Your Cup – Learn how to learn



One thing that we have to understand, one thing that we have to learn when we are a murid, is to know what knowledge is for you and what knowledge is not for you. Not every knowledge concerns you. Not every knowledge can give benefit to you.

To know what is for you and what is not for you, that in itself is a knowledge, especially when we are growing up in the west, also in the east, doesn’t matter now, they say every kind of knowledge it is for everyone. Says who? Whatever that you are reading, whatever that you are interested in, whatever that your heart moves to find that knowledge, you must run to get that knowledge. Says who? Definitely in the system of this world, in the schools, they don’t teach you every knowledge, correct? They don’t teach you every knowledge. When you are growing up, you go to grade school, they teach you every knowledge? High school, they teach you every knowledge? College, they teach you every knowledge? Even when the knowledge is available, they say this doesn’t concern you. It’s not for you. Or they say, you don’t qualify, correct? You don’t qualify for that knowledge.

‘I want to be an astronaut.’ You don’t qualify for that knowledge, because you couldn’t pass your algebra. Physics, forget about it. So it is, every desire for knowledge does not mean that you have the right to get that knowledge. This dunya is teaching us, forget about religious knowledge, forget about spirituality, this dunya knowledge, not everything is for you. Even if you want, they say, ‘you don’t qualify.’ We should take lesson from that because in these days, when it comes to religious knowledge, it seems every knowledge is for everyone, and everyone has the right to take that kind of knowledge. Qualification, there’s no such thing as qualification. We are looking at religious knowledge, spiritual knowledge to be very low now. Anyone can get it. The one who doesn’t know how to enter into a toilet, the one who doesn’t know how to wash himself properly,  the one who doesn’t know how to clean himself, the one who doesn’t know how to speak properly, how they are going to give you Heavenly knowledge? That time even if it’s Heavenly knowledge, that knowledge becomes, corrupted, it becomes dirty. This is just physically, what about the heart? And the heart, Holy Prophet (asws) is saying, ‘there is a part of a man inside of his body,  if it is good, the whole body will be good. If it is bad, the whole body is going to be bad.’ He held up his hand like this (fist) to show. Today science is showing, as big a fist that you make that is the size of your heart. He is showing like this (Sheykh shows a fist) fourteen hundred years ago, he says, ‘and that is the heart.’

So Tarikat, it is concentrating on the heart. If you don’t clean your heart, everything else is going to be dirty. You have knowledge, you have understanding, you have skills, you have service, it’s going to be dirty. Concentrating on the heart. Clean your heart. Look into your heart. Understand it.

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Now you have a question concerning the Holy Prophet’s parents and his ancestors (Sheykh speaks to a murid). The Dergah is teaching us how to have manners. Maybe we didn’t know before, definitely we didn’t know before. Maybe we are taught something else, definitely we are taught something else. But to learn how to learn itself is a ma’rfiat in these days. It’s a very high knowledge. To learn how to learn. Because many they come with the cup completely full. This is a sohbet, this is not a class. This is a heavenly gathering, it is not seminar. This is a Holy association. This is not a class where you pay money and you attend. There is a manner to listening to the sohbet too, which we didn’t speak about that too much. To just have the manner to listen to the sohbet, that is a knowledge. Most they come into the association with a cup full. Empty the cup before you come.  That time when you come with your cup emptied, you can get it filled again. If you come with a full cup, there’s nothing that we can put inside.

‘I know…I know… I know.’ In Tarikat, that is ban to say, ‘I know.’ To say, ‘why….why…why?’ Questioning. Questioning, that is again that is forbidden. Not because Islam says don’t question. Islam says, Tarikat says,  instead of using your tongue to say ‘why’ to your teacher, to your guide, questioning, why don’t you ask yourself, why don’t you search for the answer. Why didn’t you open your ears and open your heart and open your mind to look. Because the answer is everywhere. So in Tarikat, like what the khutba is saying, to look into your heart, to clean it, to have edep.

Now, the question concerning the Holy Prophet (asws) parents, because you ask a question to me, now the responsibility is on me, and I have to see whether that is necessary or not, do you understand? Because there are certain subjects that it is very dangerous. There are certain subjects that are very dangerous for us to enter into. And one of the subject is concerning the Holy Prophet (asws) and his family. It is even bad edep, for example, to be talking about the members of the family of the Prophet (asws) who were hurting him too much and cursing at them. Do you understand? The ahle Sunnah way, we don’t sit around cursing at those ones who were enemies to the Prophet (asws). We take lessons. That is the ahle Sunnah. We don’t sit around cursing at Abu Jahil, do we? Fourteen hundred years, do you ever heard of that? That becomes part of our wird, part of our zikr or part of our majlis, we have to finish it by cursing at Abu Jahil, by cursing at Abu Lahab, by cursing at the people who were hurting the Prophet (asws)? That is not the ahle Sunnah way. We take lesson, because we have that Abu Jahil inside of us, we have that Abu Lahab inside of us, we have the Namrud and sheytan and the Firaun, that is our ego. Because they concern the family of the Prophet (asws). You cannot say the Prophet (asws) hated them. Because till the last minute he was praying for them to turn around. That again is a lesson for us, especially those ones who are claiming to follow the Prophet or in the Prophet’s lineage, claiming. They don’t curse. They pray. They forgive.

So now, for us to sit around and cursing at those ones who inflicted pain at the Prophet (asws), it’s something the Prophet never did, Sahaba e-Kiram never did, Tabi’I never did, Tabi’i Tabi’in they never did. There must be a reason for that. Correct? So we leave it alone. That doesn’t concern us. These days people are even saying that the parents of the Prophet (asws), especially Wahabbi minded people, they were not Muslims, they were not believers. They’re even passing judgement on Hazreti Abu Talib, his uncle, because he did not openly accept Islam. People are just collecting fire to themselves. These subjects don’t concern you. How is it making you to become a better believer? How is it making you to become a more sincere person? It doesn’t.

‘Oh, I’m just curious.’ Eh, those words they don’t enter into the vocabulary of a murid. ‘I’m just curious to find out.’ That means you are going with your nafs.  Your nafs wants to try something, wants to know something and you are just going with it because it is leading you. You have to ask, ‘is this necessary? What can I gain from this?’ So now, they are Holy ones, we take lessons from them and we ask them for their blessings, to pray for us. They definitely belong to the Prophet (asws). Because now when you look at his lineage, it’s not just reaching back to several generations through the Arabs, but reaching back, linking together through Hazreti Ismail, who is the son of Hazreti Ibrahim (as), linking all the way back to Hazreti Adam (as). So yes, the light of the Prophet was passed through all these Prophets, but the blood of all these Prophets also flow in the blood of the Holy Prophet (asws) and in the ahle Bayt. So our concern with them is always give them the highest respect, highest praises, to not interfere. Let Allah and His Prophet say what they want. Sahabi e-Kiram, they never say, ‘I know.’ They always say, ‘Allah and His Prophet know better.’ The Sahabi e-Kiram never say, ‘why?’ they always try to look for the reason and the reason is always given to them.

So, Insya’Allah, yes, this is a Dergah. Dergah is different, you are going to learn how to have manners. You think, ‘I have manners,’ who taught you? Your mother? Your father? Everyone here has mother and father. It doesn’t mean because your mother and your father teaching you the manners. It is coming from the Holy Prophet (asws). Just when you go to school, you can say, who taught you before this? ‘my mommy taught me.’ But now you come to the real school. It doesn’t mean that everything she taught you also may be applicable or is good, some things may not be so good. Some things may be incomplete. This is why we are going to school. This is why we don’t stop at the grade school, we go to high school, we go to college, we go higher and higher. The Dergah it is a training centre for you, for me, for everyone. You think you may have certain knowledges, come with a full glass, full cup, nothing you will fill up after. You gain nothing. You may think that you know certain things, empty your cup. Look around. See and understand, and follow. This is what a Murid in a Tarikat must do.

Welcome to those who come, farewell to those who leave.

Insya’Allah, may Allah forgive me and bless you. May Allah keep our Jamaat strong. May Allah raise the station of SahibulSaif, Sheykh Maulana, higher and higher Insya’Allah, and all those ones who are in the way. WaminAllahu Taufiq. Al-Fatiha. Amin. SelamAleykum warahmatullahi wa barakatu.

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Khalifah of SahibulSaif Shaykh Abdulkerim el Kibrisi (qs),
20 Shawwal 1438
July 14, 2017 
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