I am extremely hesitant, with no self-confidence. Lately I completely lost my way and fell for my nafs. How can I fix this?


Question: I am extremely hesitant, with no self-confidence. I cannot succeed with anything. Lately I completely lost my way and fell for my nafs too. I cannot do anything right, how can I fix this? What is your advice? I need your support and duas please.


If you have a Sheykh, follow your Sheikh. Listen carefully to what he has to say, don’t make any excuses and follow. If you are following our way, listen to Sheykh Effendi properly. When the advice it is given, listen to it carefully, don’t make any excuses. Everything that we are doing, we are talking about being hesitant, we are talking about failing and everything, but there is nowhere in there that you are saying, it is for the sake of Allah. Just there for yourself. Start doing things for the sake of Allah first. Be strong with that, be sincere with that. Then your dunya is going to open to you.

You lost your way, find a guide. The guide is going to help you. You lost your way, you find a guide, you don’t want to follow that guide, you will still be lost. You find a guide, one day you like him, the next day you don’t like him, you will be lost. You cannot do anything, hold on to that guide and listen, step by step.  Don’t be impatient. You are sick; you have to follow the doctor, step by step. He gives you something that is going to be bitter, you have to take it. It is going to cure you. We are all lost. That is why we are holding on to our Sheykh and the Holy Prophet (asws). If we hold on, with their support and duas, it will help. If we don’t hold on, they support and they pray for us, but it is not going to work so much. Because we are not holding on. Because we are not opening, we are closing.

Don’t you know that in Islam it is forbidden to enter into any room without asking permission? What about your heart? Do you think they can just enter into your heart if there is no permission? The heart has to open. The heart belongs to you, you have to open it. If you close it and you say, please, doa, please, this, but you close your heart, nothing is going to happen. It didn’t work with Abu Jahil, it didn’t work with Abu Lahab. They are the uncles of the Holy Prophet (asws), that they loved him. They loved him. And he loved them. But when the Holy Prophet (asws) declared Prophethood and their ego cannot take it, that’s the time when they started hating him. And the Prophet (asws) never gave up on them. But they did not open the door of their heart, and all that family ties did not work. The son of Nuh (as), his father, the second Adam, he loved his son so much. The son didn’t believe in the father. The rain was coming down, the father was in the ship, the son was going up to higher ground, the father is saying, ‘come my son, into safety, into the ark,’ and the son said, ‘what are you talking about, this is going to stop. I’m just going to find some dry land and it’s going to be okay.’  And Allah (swt) is saying, ‘if you call your son one more time, I will strip Prophethood from you. He is your son, he is my creature. And everyone there, they are all my creatures.’

So, when the door of your heart is closed, it doesn’t matter if you are the son of a prophet, or the wife of a prophet, it’s not going to work so much. This is a lesson for us. We are not saying we are better, but this is a lesson for us Insya’Allah. Stay with your guide. Every time you are stepping on your ego, every time you are patient, every time you are trying to understand and are working against your anger, you are opening your heart. Your heart is opening more and more. You don’t feel like it, you don’t like it, you are stepping on it, your heart is opening. That is the time you will understand. Wa minallahu taufiq, al-fatihah. Amin. Selamaleykum warahmatullah.

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Khalifah of SahibulSaif Shaykh Abdulkerim el Kibrisi (qs),
11 Zul Qaida 1438
August 3, 2017 
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