Question: Can you describe the manners the murid must have in the physical presence of the Sheykh?
BismillahirRahmanirRahim. It is a very wide subject. The manners of a murid in front of his Sheykh. Because the Sheykh is not an idol. He’s not a statue just sitting down, not moving, not doing anything and people can come and say, ‘okay, Sheykh is like this, I must behave like this.’ Because the Sheykh is a human being, he moves, he thinks, he feels. There are thousands of different situations that may happen and if you are in the presence of your Sheykh in those different situation, those different situation requires different things for you to be.
Some thinking the good manners in front of the Sheykh is always to be like this (bow down), to be like a robot. There is time when you should be standing like this, there is time when you should not be standing like that. There is time when you should just be quiet and listen, and there are times when you should not be quiet and just listen. There is a protocol for everything. Some thinking, ‘oh dervish, I have to stand like this. I have to put one foot on top of the other, I have to put my head like this and always be sad.’ No, no, this is, especially in this jama’at, this is not a museum jama’at. We are not trying to be museum people. Different situations are going to call for different things. Our Sheykh, alhamdulillah has taught us that. He didn’t just come down from the house just to pray here and there. All his life we’ve seen him in different situations, we’ve worked with him, we’ve prayed with him, we’ve cooked with him, we’ve built with him, we’ve cleaned with him, we’ve cried with him. Oh, just like the Holy Prophet (asws). And he showed us in every situation, individually, with family, privately, in groups. So those who are always in sohbet and they are always in the physical closeness of their Sheykh with their hearts, they understand the principles of what it is. What is the principle?
You are next to your Sheykh, you have to give respect. But respect, when the Sheykh is working, is not to stand like this (like a robot). Maybe it is to help the Sheykh, to learn. Maybe they Sheykh is teaching and he says, ‘ no, you just stand and watch me.’ Maybe that time yes you have to stand, but it’s not to stand and to try to look for secrets that is going to come, but to look at the situation that is happening. How he’s dealing with children, we watch. Yes, try to understand. That way, every situation there is a protocol. The protocol of when he’s telling a joke is to laugh, it’s not to cry. The protocol of when he’s washing you up, is to put your head down. It is not to laugh. This is common sense. But, you know, so many people, they don’t have common sense. They may have knowledge, but they don’t have common sense. So you may come and you may just see one part of the Sheykh, that’s why Sheykh Effendi is saying, ‘don’t be a tourist.’ Don’t just come for the good times. Tourist. Come, understand, in different situations. You can apply it to your life and you are going to show people.
You don’t know what to do, too many times. Just watch what others are doing, that are around him, that are serving him, that has been there for a long time. You will learn. Our religion is based on taqlid. Taqlid it is to imitate. Imitate what? Not your ego, not sheytan. Imitate the good ones. Now, it is, for example on sohbet, now you are going to sit properly, you are going to sit comfortably, you are going to listen to the sohbet. That is the protocol that is there, in the physical presence of your Sheykh that is there. But, when it is a completely different situation, you have to understand what is that situation requiring. Have the respect. Yes. Observe your Sheykh. Read him. Understand him. Think. You are too shy to ask question from your tongue, ask it from your heart sincerely. The answer will come. It will come. It always does. Sometimes, when the Sheykh is speaking and you are not listening, there are other ways that he has to make you to listen. But as much time as you are spending, not with illusion and delusion, thinking that I can just summon my Sheykh whenever I want. No, you cannot.
People talking about rabita, muraqaba. What do you know about rabita, murakaba? You haven’t even make rabita to yourself, understanding how dirty a creature we are. Sheykh Effendi says, huh, you one station? Everyone’s station is in the toilet. When you sit there, that is your throne, that is your station. Understand? Once you start understanding your weakness and your dirtiness, when you understand your weakness and your dirtiness, you are actions are going to reflect that. It cannot be you understand your weakness and your dirtiness, and you become the most arrogant, you become the most angry person. It cannot be. There is now a hypocrisy there. But now, of course people are comparing themselves to the Sheykh, saying that, “he’s telling us to be calm, not to be angry, but he’s always angry all the time. He’s telling us ‘you have no station, everyone,’ but he is sitting over there.” Huh, once you start having those doubts and you are not understanding and you are not trying to understand, you are just keeping it there, and you are not listening to the sohbet because all these questions have been addressed, for years Sheykh Effendi has talked about this. For years. and you are refusing to do that, it will sit like a cancer inside you and one day it’s just going to overtake. That time you are not going to see anyone. No one is higher than you, you are going to think. No one can teach you anything. May Allah remove us from that Insya’Allah.
I’m not claiming to be one. You can call me anything that you want, and this is my position from day one. Anyone is saying that otherwise, anyone saying that ‘oh I heard him saying you must call me like this or like this.’ It doesn’t matter. What we are busy with, it is the work. It is not the title. It is not the title. It is the work. This is Sheykh Effendi’s work. We are all doing the work. We may not do it very well. it doesn’t matter. We do our best. And we are asking Allah to accept it. Insya’Allah. May Allah forgive us. May Allah bless you Insya’Allah. Al-Fatiha. Amin.
Sheykh Lokman Efendi Hz
Khalifah of SahibulSaif Shaykh Abdulkerim el Kibrisi (qs),
OSMANLI DERGAHI- New York
11 Zul Qaida 1438
August 3, 2017