Question: What is the lesson for us not to speak too much?
It is easy not to talk too much in front of your Sheykh, it’s when your Sheykh is not looking whether you’re going to talk or not talk, that is the whole key. For those who are physically in front and they don’t talk too much, and I don’t mean just talking, talking, do you understand?
Talking everyone has to talk, now don’t say you’re working outside and you’re not talking, you’re doing things like that, don’t be an idiot, of course everyone knows how to balance this. I have to say because there are going to be people who are saying like that. ‘He’s not talking to me whole day I was being a shepherd,’ Why? ‘Because he says he wants to follow you properly, he should hold his tongue.’ No it’s not like that.
So, if you are in front of your Sheykh and you are something, behind him you are something else, your faith is still not complete, because your presence to him, your relationship to him is just physical, when physically he is not there, there is no power. But the Sheykh’s power is spiritual. If when he is not present then you are putting his presence, his khuzr, there, and you are conducting yourself as much as you can, we are weak, of course we make mistakes, but you are watching, especially when unusual things happen and you pull out, you say, ‘oh, this is very unusual, this has never happened, let me not get involved, let me not interfere, let me not do it, let me not think, let me just pull back and watch.’ If you do that you will win for yourself. This is teaching us taqwa, nothing else but taqwa.
Taqwa is knowing that Allah is looking at you, to be concious, not to say in masjid, ‘Allah is here,’ and then later in your house, in your room, you can do anything that you want. In the way of Tasawwuf forget about the place, we cannot even have that kind of thing in our heart. And when it happens we must run for forgiveness, if it happens we must run to fix it. Those that they are quiet in front of us, it’s easy. This is the physical world, it is an entrance, the physicality is an entrance, but after you leave the entrance, you love the door, no? You love the door, because the door is entering into the house. Once you enter into the house, what, you’re going to bring the door with you? You passed it. Physicality is the door, once you enter there you say, ‘this is not the physical,’ now you have to build up your connection to the Sheykh. It cannot be, ‘in sohbet I’m with my Sheykh, outside of sohbet I’m not,’ that’s why we’re saying in sohbet don’t even make zikr, don’t even make salawats. Why are you busy with that? Ahh, we catch you again, because you’re not paying attention, because your mind is somewhere else. You’re not paying attention. When the Prophet speaks, he’s speaking for Allah, when you’re listening, that is your zikr.
So, this is the edep of Tarikat. You have so much knowledge, you have so much hizmet, you don’t have the edep, you will lose everything because one day, sheytan is going to trick you. So, we have to know this, we have to practice it. Outside of your Sheykh’s presence you must put him there. Putting your Sheykh’s presence, start from humble beginnings, step by step, don’t be saying, ‘I’m not in my Sheykh’s presence, now I’m in my Sheykh’s presence and I’m in Rabita twenty-four hours.’ But we’re looking, you’re not doing the laws, the do’s and the don’ts properly. If you’re not doing the do’s and the don’ts properly, how you can think your Sheykh is giving you secrets? That time, even if your Sheykh is putting some secrets in you, your head is not going to blow up, because you say, ‘oh, I’m so dirty one, there must be a reason,’ you’re not going to fly, you’re not going to think you are better than other people because you check, ‘hmm, I am still this dirty one, yet my Sheykh is showing me something, astarghfirullah.’ Understand?
Yeah, seven years passed, I’m still fearing Sheykh Effendi every day, I don’t have the luxury even to sit the way that I want to sit, I’m saying, ‘is Sheykh Effendi sitting like this?’ No. I cannot. We have to be careful, those who are saying, outside something, inside something, and you’re not running to fix it, you are playing games to say, ‘oh I’m weak, so I’m weak so I’m not going to do it.’ That is a characteristic of not a believer. You ask a believer he says, ‘I am weak but I must run to fix it.’ We have to. We have a big responsibility. It’s not just about yourself, saving yourself from the hellfire. So many others are going to come, in front and behind that we’re also responsible for. First, fix yourself.
InsyaAllah, may Allah make it that we become strong, that we follow properly, that we don’t become arrogant that we don’t become weak, that when we’re weak and we are arrogant we’re going to run to our Sheykh and hold on tightly, that we are not going to be fooled by our ego. May Allah forgive me and bless you, al-Fatiha.
Sheykh Lokman Efendi Hz
Khalifah of SahibulSaif Shaykh Abdulkerim el Kibrisi (qs),
Osmanli Dergahi NY
3 Zul Qaida 1440
July 6, 2019