Question: What if we don’t get that feeling when the Shaykh looks at us or we don’t have the feeling of love in our hearts, is it just another emotion or feeling?
In this way it changes. It changes also, because even the love that you feel, like a secular love, it changes. It doesn’t mean that the love when you’re a teenager, that is the purest love. That is the love that is strongest the way that you feel, but it is the most unproductive, untested but it is the most powerful in the way that it consumes you. You have that love, does that love transform into something different? It has to.
Everything in this world has to transform, even love has to transform, it cannot just be like that. You understand? So now you feel that your Sheykh is looking at you, then later you feel that he is not looking at you. He is, still, but what are you doing now, you have to ask yourself, ‘that I’m losing this connection?’ If you look at yourself and say, ‘I’m not doing anything wrong that is losing this connection,’ then continue, because sometimes it goes up sometimes it goes down, this is natural. You cannot function properly if someone is always breathing down your neck, this is another thing. You are an expert at cooking, but if somebody is there watching you cooking, every move, you will make a mistake, correct? Forget about a person, if you know a camera is there looking at you, you’re going to lose it. So sometimes they say, ‘oh, forget that we’re here,’ and they make you to think that they’re not watching so that you’re more free to do. But it’s not because you don’t like, it’s not because you hate, it’s not because of that, it’s not because you lost the connection, but just so that you can breathe and you can function. So that’s alright too, you understand? It changes. Khayr insyaAllah, this much is enough.
Shaykh Lokman Efendi Hz
Khalifa of SahibulSaif Shaykh Abdulkerim el Kibrisi (qs),
Osmanli Dergah New York,
23 Zul Qaida 1440
July 25, 2019