Question: Is Allah going to be upset if we ask help for every single problem?
Allah SWT is saying through a hadiths of the Holy Prophet (AS), cos the Prophet says, ‘Ask help from your Lord. Even if your shoelaces they break, ask help from your Lord.’ But to understand how that help is going to come.
The one who is sitting down and just asking help, and then when the help is asking, saying, ‘hmm no. I want help not from this one,’ that one become the most foolish and the most lazy one. Just like one man, he was saying, ‘I love Allah so much I’m going to ask help only from Him,’ and one day he found himself drowning, and he’s asking help and one boat came, appearing out of nowhere to help him and the men from the boat is saying, ‘give me your hand I will save you from drowning,’ he said, ‘No! I ask help only from Allah and only Allah is going to save me.’
The man drowned, he died, came into Divine Presence, like this or that he is saying to Allah, ‘You didn’t come Ya Rabbi.’ Allah is saying, ‘yes, I did. Through that man. Why you didn’t take his help.’ This is because man now has become very foolish, they are very childish, very childish. They think the help is what? You think one hand is going to appear to you from the skies and it’s going to pick you up? Help will come in different ways. What, you think help is always going to come with one big hug and one nice present? The help may come in different ways. Sometimes the help comes with a smack. As Sheykh Effendi says what? Sometimes one smack is better than one thousand words of advice and advice it is the biggest help. Sohbet, advice, because Deen I-nasihat.
Nasihat. Deen is nasihat. Religion is advice. Advice is the highest help. Prophets they give advice. So you don’t want to hear, smack will come. The smack now it is a biggest help than that nasihat and you are going to wake up. So, you have been assigned a guide, now it doesn’t mean like we say, now the guide is going to hold you and say, ‘my baby, I’m going to babysit you all your life.’ No. The aim of Tarikat is for you to become a Rijal, to become a man, to become responsible. Man meaning adult, men, women, to be responsible, to be accountable, not to be a baby. Now, you cannot be spoiled in that way. If that one is saying now, ‘be careful when you are walking. Avoid this, this and this.’ Now you cannot when you are walking there, everytime you are walking, you say, ‘please, please hold my hand.’ Why? ‘so that I can avoid this, this, this and this.’ We said, we already told you to avoid it. Why I need to hold your hand? Now it is not that you don’t know, you are being arrogant and you are being stubborn and you are being foolish. You have to come out from that insyaAllah. So that time, you are going to stop. I know people who would bother our Sheykh so much, thinking that you have to consult him with everything. You have to consult him with what color I should be painting my house? Blue or green? What should I have for dinner? Chicken or fish, this or that? Of course sometimes it is necessary because you don’t want to color your house, maybe pink or something, but you shouldn’t even be asking for that color because you know what are the colors the Sheykh would like. There’s already help there. You don’t need to ask fish or chicken because you already know what is necessary for you at that time.
So you move from asking through here (mouth) to asking through the heart. And the answer not through the ear but through your heart. What is necessary, insya’Allah. That time you may find the answer will come to you before you even ask the question. Of course it’s going to be. He is going to guide you. Because you are not going to question now your Sheykh or question Allah, you are going to question yourself. You are going to say, ‘will Sheykh Effendi like this or this one? Is this better or is this better?’ Now you always will put your Sheykh in front. Not to text him all the time. So may it be easy insyaAllah. SelamAleykum.
Shaykh Lokman Efendi Hz
Khalifa of SahibulSaif Shaykh Abdulkerim el Kibrisi (qs),
Osmanli Dergah New York,
1 Zul Hijjah 1440
August 2, 2019