Question: What is the best defense against heedlessness?
To make a defense against heedlessness? It’s like you are saying, ‘what’s the best defense against being drunk?’ Don’t drink. Right? Don’t drink. Don’t drink, don’t be around people who drink, don’t think about it, don’t fantasize about it, don’t spend any time with it.
Heedlessness is a drunken station. Don’t get drunk, be around people who are awake, look at them, copy them. Those who are awake, copy them, those who are awake, how they are, how they are looking, how they are sitting, how they are thinking, how they are moving, what they are saying, copy them. So many times people around me that they are heedless, I’m saying because they don’t copy other people. They don’t copy those ones who are awake, they keep insisting on their own way of doing it. Why is that?
So many times you are heedless because you eat too much, let me say that. Okay? This is what happens in the wild, the animal that is full is the animal that is heedless and is going to get eaten. You become awake when you’re hungry, when you’re curious, when you’re not satisfied, you understand, hunger is also in different ways. Not when you’re satisfied, ‘ah same thing, okay. Oh, he’s here again, oh okay. Oh zikr again, oh okay, I’ll settle in to go to sleep now.’ You understand? That means you’re full, you don’t empty yourself. And Allah, through the mouths of His Evliya, through the mouth of our Sheykh, saying, ‘before you come, empty your cup. Come with an empty cup.’ How many coming with an empty cup? How many coming as if they don’t know anything and they’re eager to learn, eager to know? That means now there has to be a shift in your mind, a shift in your focus. There has to be an interest, what is there, something is there, something is new, something is fresh. It’s not the same old, same old, it is not. Even if you say ‘La illaha illallah’, every time you say it, it is fresh and it is alive. So when you are too full, you are not hungry, you’re not interested, then you are in ghaflat. Okay, maybe your ego is pulling you that way, you’re going to follow your ego or you’re going to get behind the eyes, behind the mind, behind your Sheykh, you understand, to look at it through his eyes. Sometimes Sheykh Effendi would speak and then we would, ‘he’s making this turn, what is the reason he’s doing this? He’s making this turn, why’s he saying it like this? Who is this someone? Is there someone here that he’s changing it to be like this?’ you keep awake, you keep talking, you keep becoming alive, you don’t just ‘ah,’ letting it all to just wash over you like that. You understand?
It is preparation, preparing. When we first came, first few times, there’s so much excitement. And we build that excitement up, ‘oh, it’s coming in one week, oh, it’s coming in three days, oh, it’s coming in one day, I cant wait, I cant wait,’ you build yourself up, no? You prepare, no? You put your mind in a space, correct? So what happened? What happened? ‘Oh, I don’t feel it anymore so I should let go.’ Really? Then don’t eat. Don’t eat. So many times we’re eating just because we are hungry, not because we really want to. So many times people eat, they’re not even hungry, they’re just eating. Stop all of that. So how do you work yourself up to that? For the sake of Allah, how do you do that, even when your ego says, ‘no, I don’t want to do it,’ how are you going to get that excitement, that curiosity, that wakefulness? Things that you can do. Even if you don’t feel it, that’s okay, it’s better. It’s much harder for you to do that, Allah will love you more because you’re stepping on your ego that time. How many times we’re hearing Sheykh Effendi saying, ‘Allah loves that servant that he’s forcing himself, he’s fighting with himself, he’s hating to wake up in the middle of the night to pray, when he’s praying he is going back to sleep and he’s forcing himself to wake up,’ he says, ‘Allah loves that servant more than that servant who wakes up and he has no problem worshiping.’ And he’s worshiping properly. Allah loves that one who is worshiping brokenly, but he’s stepping on his ego. That’s all they want to see from us, to struggle a little bit, to fight a little bit.
So you don’t feel it, you work through it. You force yourself. Then you wait and then you’re going to see how things are going to open. Yes, it will. Anyway. This much is enough. Slowly, insyaAllah, maybe not so slowly, we don’t have too much time. It’s not so difficult. Wa minallahu taufiq, al-Fatiha. Amin. Selam aleykum.
Shaykh Lokman Efendi Hz
Khalifa of SahibulSaif Shaykh Abdulkerim el Kibrisi (qs),
Osmanli Dergah Spring Hill Florida,
7 Muharrem 1441
September 5, 2019