If you are talking about your relationship with your Sheykh, you need to spend more time. When you spend more time, don’t just physically be there, look and see and study. Because he may be right next to you but he’s a thousands miles away. You understand? Do you understand that? Can you see or no? They don’t play games, it’s very clear.
We see so many times, Sheykh Effendi, how is he, how is his mood today. It’s not because he’s moody, it is because now he is going through so many things that we cannot understand, that has an effect on him and we must know, to be intelligent and how to move according to that. Because he is not going according to himself, he is going according to what is the order that is coming, whatever that you have to do. Sometimes it is, yes he’s a thousands miles away and he’s just very free, sometimes he is so heavy, sometimes he’s just joking and sometimes he’s very silent. So that idiot mureed is going to say, ‘well, he’s joking before, so now I’m going to joke. All the time I’m going to joke. So what?’ Why you are not looking? This is not just a Sheykh, this is you, you are like that. Your wife, your husband is like that. Your children they are like that, your friends they are like that, they are not the same all the time. If you study them and you know, then you know, ‘this one is sick, this one is in pain, this one is crying inside, not showing but something, I must go according to that. I cannot be an idiot and just go according to how I want to be.’
When you stop thinking about yourself. You need to spend some time, you need to study. How much time are you spending? How much time are you spending? If I ask everyone here how much time are you spending in the Dergah and what are you doing in the Dergah, how much time are you spending now in sohbet, in association? You do that often enough then you are going to understand a little bit how to move. It’s not a matter of balancing this and balancing that, don’t give me that academic question again. You are looking at that, you know. You will know. You are a doctor, how are you balancing? You don’t balance it, you look at the sick person and you go according to that. There are things that you have to overcome. Remember the first time, how nervous you were and then now you are not. What did you do? You said, ‘I have to overcome. It’s not about me, it’s about that one. I must help. I’m tired, I’m sleepy, I’m this, I’m that, it doesn’t matter. No, I have to put that aside. That one I have to.’ Same principle. That time you are not going to be out of step because your heart now starts moving. You’re not just here just to be fan mureed. We are here to be able to carry certain responsibilities, to be adult, to be a man. Not just to be hehe..haha..laughing and joking and flying when the Sheykh is there. Sheykh is not there, everyone boom! And they live their lives of ego and their desires nonstop. It’s so easy when they Sheykh is there, everyone to be flying.
You spend enough time then you’ll know how it is. We have to overcome that. InsyaAllah.
Shaykh Lokman Efendi Hz
Khalifa of SahibulSaif Shaykh Abdulkerim el Kibrisi (qs),
Osmanli Dergah New York
14 Muharrem 1441
September 13, 2019