Question: How can our Sheykh be the first one we think of?
You have the Nasqh, the stamp, the embroidery, the stamp, the seal of Allah. They ask our Sheykh, ‘why in your tarikat you have pictures of your Sheykh?’ and Sheykh Effendi replied, saying in the old days when the murid looks at his Sheykh one time, because he is so thirsty and he is so in love and he is so wanting his Sheykh, when he sees face of his Sheykh, it sealed in his heart that when he closes his eyes, he sees his Sheykh everywhere. When he opens, everywhere he sees him.
The Sheykh is just a doorway, of course, to Prophet, to Allah. I have to say these things because people are donkeys and they say, ‘now you are teaching people to worship the Sheykh. It doesn’t matter. This sohbet is not for donkeys.
So, you are asking me how you are going to be able to do that? A man who is hungry, can he ever forget that he’s hungry? No. When he’s sleeping, he’s thinking about food, dreaming about food, when he wakes up he dreams about food. He can distract himself a little bit here and there, but he’s always thinking because there’a a hunger. The man who is thirsty is even worse, correct? If the man is in love, it’s even more. You are asking me what? If you are hungry and thirsty and is in love with our Sheykh, he’s there. But if we are not, then it’s just an idea of a Sheykh, ‘oh, please pray for me. Please.’ Just that. Then there is no connection. It’s just play. Not the naksibendi way. Naksibendi way is the way of the Sahabi. Where they are not just going to the Prophet and say, ‘please pray for us.’ The Prophet says, ‘now we have to sacrifice.’ They say, ‘my parents are already sacrifice for you.’ Prophet says, ‘now we have to sacrifice our children.’ They say, ‘our children are already sacrifice for you.’ Today’s murid we cannot even sacrifice one hour one week. You cannot sacrifice so many things. And they say, ‘no, no, no, no.’ and they find reasons. ‘Oh he’s young. He’s not Turkish. He’s not Pakistani. He doesn’t know. This is wrong, this..this…’ all sorts of things. But now, if there is that love, if there is that thirst, if there is that hunger, then it is impossible not too. But, Holy Prophet (AS) is saying, ‘for Allah’s sake, cry. If you cannot cry, make yourself to cry.’ So, which means that to put ourselves in a situation we cry for Allah, if you cannot, Prophet (AS) says, ‘now make yourself to do it. Force yourself to do it until it becomes natural.’ How are you going to say, if you are going to ask me, ‘how do we fall in love with the Sheykh?’ I’m going to tell you, how can a man be hungry, how can a man be thirsty?
How does a person fall in love? How does a person look at that one as a beloved? You are hungry because you know that this feeling, this sensation you have it cannot be fulfilled until you eat. You will die unless you have a drink of water. Is your need for your Sheykh like that? Are you understanding what he is? This is the point. It’s even more difficult now, they say, ‘ya, ya ya. Sheykh Effendi, I love him. But you, it’s okay….’ Don’t. The Sheykh never demands. He never ask. He never says. But if you are going to become sincere murid, that is the first step you have to. If you don’t have that then you cannot sacrifice nothing. It’s not through sacrifice that you fall in love. You sacrifice because you are in love. But you have to look at that one in different way. You have to. Especially in our Jama’at. If it doesn’t pull your heart, please don’t stay. If you are doing it out of a sense of obligation, don’t. If you are saying, ‘well I have to be here because Sheykh Effendi says,’ don’t. Even if Sheykh Effendi and Sheykh Mevlana says, ‘stay with him,’ don’t stay. Because know the work that I have, it’s not going to be so easy, it will demand a lot from those who are following me. And if you cannot do it, don’t torture yourself. You say, ‘I’m doing it for Sheykh Effendi’s sake,’ you may do that too, but what is going to happen one day is that you are going to say, ‘he’s not Sheykh Effendi.’ But we find strangers calling us Sheykh Effendi. By joke we are saying, ‘ya, Sheykh Effendi.’ But how do we make yourself to fall in love? You don’t look at that one like nothing. How are you going to fall in love? Like they say in my part of the world, I’m going to rephrase it, ‘that one is not in love because he doesn’t know him. If you don’t know, how can you love?’ Once you start knowing and you start being interested, then it opens the door.
Slowly, insyaAllah. Slowly. Fatiha.
Shaykh Lokman Efendi Hz
Khalifah of SahibulSaif Shaykh Abdulkerim el Kibrisi (qs),
Osmanli Dergah, New York
24 Rabi al-Ahir 1441H
December 20, 2019