Question: When we are wearing the sunnat (both for men and women who are properly covering themselves in Sunnat clothes), how can we help each other from falling into kibir (arrogance), where we see ourselves higher than the others?
This is what Tarikat answers. You cannot find this in fiqh because this is the chapter of kibir, of arrogance. This is one of the four enemies and tarikat in a Naksibendi way, it is about finding out the tricks and the traps of the arrogance.
So many people don’t even know what is arrogance. They think it’s just a normal behavior that everyone is doing and they are copying. And when you are doing something for the sake of Allah and you have arrogance, that’s the worse thing that you can do. You can feel happy because you are doing it for the sake of Allah but you must never forget where you came from. You must never forget how you were before you put on the hijab or the sunnat clothes and you must always be thankful to Allah for giving you the chance to wear it, that although you don’t deserve it because of so many wrong things that you’ve done, Allah is giving you a chance. And you must wish for everyone to have that chance too. When you look at people who are worse than you, for example you are covering yourself and you look at this person who doesn’t cover, once you look down to them, you lose all your rewards and your blessings. If they are bad, you take lessons from them. You must say, ‘Ya Rabbi, thank You for not letting my ego to be lose, to become worse than that. If You do, I know I am going to be worse than that.’ This is when Tarikat, especially the Naksibendi way, to have an accounting of yourself it is very important. One hour of Tafakkur it is better than seventy years of worship.
What is tafakkur? Tafakkur is to look at yourself and to think what you did today, why you do it? You made zikr, why you made zikr? You wake up to pray tahajjud, why you do that? If you are doing it because you want to show off to people or if you are doing it in ghaflat, it’s not too much benefit. You must think and you must judge yourself. This is what Tafakkur is. Before anyone to judge you, you judge yourself. You must know what is your intention in doing those things. You must treat everyday as if it is Judgement Day because any day you can die and you are going to be judged. Before they judge you you judge yourself. Okay, it’s so difficult maybe to sit for one hour, Sheykh Effendi says, these days you sit for five minutes you get the same rewards. Sometimes it’s difficult to do that, everyone is working, go to sleep and say, ‘ya Rabbi, I did so many wrong things today, any right thing I do it is because of Your blessings again. It is not because of me, it is because Your blessing reached to me, but the wrong things that I have done, so many today, it is because of my nafs.’ Ask Allah to forgive you. Then you must know, ‘ya Rabbi, today I did so many wrong things to so many people, known and unknown. I’m asking for forgiveness, and I’m asking that You turn their hearts to forgive me.’ This way, when you start doing it, your ego will not trick you so much. Because you know yourself, sincerely. And as you go through the day, be awake. InsyaAllah. You understand?
Alhamdullillah, that’s why I get questions sometimes when I was in the Dergah, new people coming in and they say, ‘I’m not as religious as you.’ No one in the Dergah, none of my murids think that they are religious. Because we don’t count on our prayers, we don’t count on our zikr. We’re not depending on it, we know that our prayers and all our ibadat it is so lacking and it is so dirty that it is not going to be acceptable in the Divine Presence. So we must be a little bit more awake. InsyaAllah, amin.
Shaykh Lokman Efendi Hz
Khalifah of SahibulSaif Shaykh Abdulkerim el Kibrisi (qs),
Osmanli Dergah, Bursa
28 Jamada al-Awwal 1441
January 23, 2019