Question: What makes a person desire companionship?
They may not be so skilled in having fun too. They may see people having fun, watching a movie, they say, ‘what’s so great about that?’ For them it’s enough that a couple of friends get together, they have some tea and then they share their lives, they talk and that’s fun. To do this and that, like so many of us here in this country to have fun we spend money and everything, it’s not necessary. They’re not skilled in that. But whether skilled or not skilled we have to see the bottom line is, what is the Prophet’s way? Because we are believers. What is the way of the EvliyaAllah? What is the way of Islam? This is how we have to base it on. Not to say that you come here suddenly you have a lot of friends too. You go through different phases, no?
First you have a lot of friends, then you discover you’re all alone. Then later you go through a phase where you think everyone is against you, everyone hates you. Everyone goes through that, but everyone goes through that really in America, a lot, because people have to go through that childishness. When it is not that, when it becomes more like helping people and helping around and doing things, not because you want to have fun with everyone, and your sense of having fun is like helping with things and doing things, then it’s different, you don’t really rely so much on people like that, and your sense of your strength, your worth, your happiness, your contentment, your fulfillment, your meaning, what gives you the most meaning, gives you the most taste, is not that you’re just going to watch a movie, or you’re just going to… no, it’s when you’re working together. When you’re helping each other. Really. When you’re listening to sohbet and you talk about it, when you are putting that sohbet in your life, when you’re waking up now, especially in the springtime I remember when I wasn’t living here, when I would come here, I would appreciate this more. Especially in the springtime, I would get so happy and every day I would wake up with expectation, with excitement, ‘oh, how many chicks are going to hatch today? What’s going to sprout from here?’ you understand?
So it’s not so much about people also, it is what is the meaning there. What’s the good of having so many friends if there’s no meaning? So now, taking the sohbet, taking the dergah. Serving and thinking and understanding, putting things together. Don’t be busy with this (Sheykh holds up phone), this will suck you in, especially living in the dergah. It will occupy your heart and your mind, it’s not just your time, you understand? So to go out there, to look at things, to fix things, to do, you have a sense of freedom, and a sense of meaning and a sense that you are part of this and you’re doing something that they have always been doing for thousands of years, you are part of that chain. That time, whether you are by yourself or you have a hundred people around you, it doesn’t really matter so much. You know what you have to do and you take meaning and blessings from that and barakat from that. The whole point is to do something to get the blessings, to get the barakat.
Prophet (AS), Sheykh Effendi is saying too, any association, any meeting, any group, any gathering, if you don’t mention Allah and His Prophet and give praises, that meeting is cursed. It’s cursed. You understand? Then that time, if you know the meaning of something then you don’t need so many things that other people need. You don’t need it so much, and you’re happy. Then once you have that, once you discover that secret, then slowly you start to see people are coming to you, because you have that secret. It’s like you’re just busy by yourself and you’re making honey, when you make honey then others are going to come. Understand? May Allah forgive us and accept our weak service insyaAllah. Al fatiha. Selam aleykum.
Shaykh Lokman Efendi Hz
Khalifah of SahibulSaif Shaykh Abdulkerim el Kibrisi (qs),
Osmanli Dergah, New York
25 Rajab 1441
March 20, 2020