How do we justify if something is just for our desire or it’s necessity?


Question: Nowadays, everything that we see, as you said, it is bombardment of desires. If we need to get something, how do we justify if it’s just for our desire or it’s necessity?


First don’t try to find excuse for yourself. You say you are being bombarded by desires so you can’t help it, so how do you find a balance? You don’t. You don’t find excuse for yourself. Listen to that sohbet and you say, ‘oh my life, how much luxury I have. That’s enough.’ Then say estaghfirullah. How many sohbets that we give we say that that one who has, if he shares, even if it is something that is luxury, but he shares. Se are living here, we cannot deny those things, it’s there in front of us, but what the sohbet is saying? it’s concentrating, focusing and concentrating. There are a lot of people, they concentrate on that. They go to work, concentrating on that. They have children, concentrating on that. The women, they are concentrating on what to wear tomorrow. Literally people are doing that. I mean, check ourselves before we come to Tarikat. What makes us to become more alive, what makes us to desire?

It’s not to focus, it’s not to concentrate on that. It comes to us, we share it. Don’t claim it. Don’t hold it so tight, so close like this. But whatever that comes to us, you must take care of it. Now nobody can say here, ‘I don’t know how to share.’ Nobody can say here, ‘I don’t know who to share it with.’ We have a new murid, that one is working in a foundation. They have been building Masjids and digging wells in Africa for a very long time. And they are doing that and he’s showing me the videos. They are so happy like this and they are giving away things to the poor people over there. It’s a real one, not this fake American type that just take money from you. We know so many people now that they are in that position and they are even worse. Not only people in Africa, people in China, people let’s say in Burma, people in Turkey, people in India. The thing is not to concentrate. How many times we are remembering this in a day, in a week. If we are not remembering then we are concentrating on it a little bit. If we are remembering then even if we don’t get, we say it’s okay. And if we get, we are trying to share.

We just finished the Urs of Sheykh Abdul Qadir Geylani and he is saying, Ghawsul Azam, he is saying to feed one hungry poor person, to fill his stomach with food, it is better than all the Qiyamulai, all the prayers that you do in your whole lifetime, all the tilawat, all the zikr, everthing. So it is to help, the idea for that is to help other people. That is one thing that they don’t allow that to happen here in America. That’s why no barakat. There is a great amount of wealth but there is no barakat. Because they stop you from helping people. They group you according to people of the same status, the same income, they hide away all the poor people from your eyes, so little kids they don’t even have any feelings to help other people because they don’t see anyone that needs help. All they see are the kids who have more than them. Because when you are not helping people, you focus is on yourself. And when the focus is on yourself, you focus on your desires, meaning you focus on what you can have more. What you have now is suffering because someone else have more.

You have something, you have a lot, we all here we have a lot, we desire more. Then we see someone who has less in front of us, just to desire something more we feel very dirty. And then to help the others, you pull that desire out and the rahmat that comes, the barakat that comes to you, and you feel very happy because now you have a reason for that wealth, you have a reason for those things. You are not just sitting on it, accumulating. And you know when you give something, you feel very light. When you take something, when you collect things, you become very heavy. And it’s different to just cut a cheque, it is different to actually give food to a poor person, to watch the person eat, and for the person to say, thank you. That kind, when you are actually doing that, you will feel sorry, you will say, ‘estaghfirullah Ya Rabbi that I have food and he doesn’t.’ That will bring you more faith, yes, than staying up night time your whole life. That gives you more faith.

So this is how our position has to be with things. The same one that Hz Abdul Qadir Geylani he lives like a King, he lives like a Sultan, he had everything. But he was sharing. He was not putting it in his heart. How do you know it’s not in your heart? You are not holding it on tightly. You are sharing. If you don’t have it, it’s not going to hurt you. When you feel yourself holding on tightly, you are going to fight against it and you are going to give a little bit more. Insya’Allah.

May Allah bring that out from our hearts, the attachment to this world. Because for some it’s not desire, it’s attachment. They say, ‘I don’t want anything more but what I have, nobody must touch. What I have, I cannot give.’ That’s even worse. Because maybe the person desires to have more, but he gives. The person who is attached, they don’t give. Some people they are attached to money. Some people they are attached to their things. Some people they are attached to their time. Some people they are attached to their own, let’s say, what they do, nobody can say, ‘you cannot do that,’ and they keep doing it. Even if people say they cannot, they are very attached to that. So, you cannot be attached. If you are attached to that, they will destroy you. Especially in this way.

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Khalifah of SahibulSaif Shaykh Abdulkerim el Kibrisi (qs),
Osmanli Dergah, New York

22 Rabi al-Ahir 1441H
December 11, 2019

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1 Response to How do we justify if something is just for our desire or it’s necessity?

  1. Adnan Ahmad says:

    Thank you.

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