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If there is a possibility to get married, is it good?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: If there is a possibility to get married, is it good? I think so. Try, insyaAllah. I will pray for you insyaAllah. Murid: My parents are pushing me to get married, from time to time. InsyaAllah. May the … Continue reading

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The one who knows himself, knows his Lord

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Are we busy with knowing Allah, in this Tarikat? We are busy with knowing ourselves. Same meaning, let’s say, I give you a short answer, same meaning as Holy Prophet (AS) is saying, “The one who knows himself, knows … Continue reading

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Why was Mansur al-Halaj (QS) saying ‘Ana al-Hakk’?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: Why was Mansur al-Halaj (QS) saying ‘Ana al-Hakk,’ and even the ashes from his body are saying this? It is very confusing to me, and maybe it needs a high level of faith to understand. I cannot completely … Continue reading

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What does one do if one has low self-esteem?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: What does one do if you have low self-esteem? Should one first improve that or consider that a part of your nafs? If this was Sheykh Effendi, he would first make fun of that word. “Self-steam” he says. … Continue reading

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How do we not be complacent?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: When you are following a Sheykh and the Sheykh is showing you some things that are wrong, the ego, the characteristics of the ego, and after some time you feel like with the blessings of the Sheykh you … Continue reading

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Can the intention be something that sheytan is aware of?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: You were mentioning in the Khutbah about making good intentions. Can the intention be something that sheytan is aware of? Sheytan is always aware of the intention. Of course. Sheytan is not running after insincere people. He is … Continue reading

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Sheykh Effendi says a Murid can either become Nur or nar, and he gives light to people. Can you open this more?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: I read that Sheykh Effendi is saying that a Murid can either submit himself to the Sheykh, and if he does that he becomes Nur and he gives light to people, or he doesn’t submit and he becomes … Continue reading

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How do we keep our egos in check so that we don’t get lazy and uninterested on deeds done on regular days?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: There are many days in the year where there are extra benefit and numerous rewards, such as Ashura, Leylatul Qadr, Ramazan and others. There are even certain acts that are said to eb equivalent to performing the Hajj. … Continue reading

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Covering the wrongs of others

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: Allah SWT is saying ‘hate those that I hate.’ The person, let’s say, who is not praying or not fasting, can you say, ‘oh , this person is a bad person, Allah hates it,’ so we have to … Continue reading

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Could you suggest a solution to keep our heart peaceful and at ease in these painful times?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: Sometime back in one of your sohbets, you mentioned that after the veiling of Hz Mawlana Sheykh Nazim Hakkani, things have changed globally in every aspect, whether it’s a political or regime change, or social or institutional, or … Continue reading

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Is there a way to prevent Ghaflat and to remain conscious always?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: How do we tend to forget the teachings of the Evliyaullah so quickly? We immediately get a reminder after we make a mistake or error. Is there a way that this Ghaflat can be prevented and we remain … Continue reading

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How is the Murid supposed to prepare himself to handle the Sheykh’s decisions?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: Rasulullah (AS)’s decisions, the munafiqs were making fitnah and Rasulullah (AS) said ‘burn that house with them alive inside.’ And then some people said ‘it’s so harsh.’ If the Sheykh sometimes makes decisions like this, how is the … Continue reading

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How can I take the pain of speaking to foolish people as an opportunity to correct myself?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: Ya Sheykh, after following your sohbets, the priorities of my life and the aims and the objectives of my life have changed. I feel respected to live on the path of the Ottoman Sultans, it gives me a … Continue reading

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Losing your taste in this world

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Murid: As you were saying, when you turn 30 or 40, the heart should turn away. I was thinking, like how they have manufactured certain terms for this time, in the west especially they call it “midlife crisis”, so … Continue reading

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Continuing the Struggle of the Holy Prophet (AS)

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Murid: One of my college friends, they were posting on Facebook they went to Cancun with their family, Muslims. And they were very proudly, even the guy’s mother was there and they were very happy and posting, and all … Continue reading

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What can I do to better myself and have a better work ethic?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: I recently lost my job because I did not have the proper work ethic. I remember from one sohbet of yours where you mentioned that hard working is a skill. All these years I’ve come to realize that … Continue reading

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The new generation thinks that the Khilafat is only history. How can we make them to understand?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: You spoke earlier in the Khutba about Khilafah, but the new generation now they have no idea what is this, and they think this is just history, something that happened a hundred years ago, that’s it, there’s nothing … Continue reading

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What makes people to miss welcoming the month of the Holy Prophet on a Divine Threshold?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: You mentioned that this place, Dergah, means a Divine Threshold and people are here, and we see from one Rabiul Awal to the next, some people pass away, some people leave and others join. What makes people to … Continue reading

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What is the edep for us Murids when the Angel of Death comes?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: What is the edep for us Murids when Hz Azrail, the Angel of Death, comes? Should we say salams to him? If he gives salams, you have to give salams back, no? If he doesn’t give salam, then … Continue reading

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How does one sincerely get rid of the habit of always wanting to take credit?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: Seyhim, you mentioned in a sohbet that Allah SWT loves when a servant declares his weakness. The ego has this habit of always wanting to take credit for things for itself, like you mentioned yesterday. It will make … Continue reading

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Should saving ourselves first from the fire be our main goal?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: Should saving ourselves first from the fire be our main goal? First you have to save yourself before you can do anything. Before you are going to be useful, you have to save yourself from destruction. First I … Continue reading

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Can you please explain why nothing happened to those rebels who revolted against the Saltanat?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: Can you please explain why nothing happened to those rebels who revolted against the Saltanat hundreds of years ago? Innocent people now are paying the price, while the enemies, namely, specific western countries and others, still have not … Continue reading

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What happens if a person gets fooled, but they realize it and they change?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: In the case of Qabil, he had three chances, the first chance maybe was a matter of the heart, but then it was clearly not accepted. So what if the person makes that same assumption or gets fooled, … Continue reading

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Can you tell us ten characteristics of an Abdullah?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: Can you tell us ten characteristics of an Abdullah? No need ten. I don’t like lists like that. I am going to give you one characteristic, and you will understand one thousand. He is in love. Finished. You … Continue reading

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For people who cannot be in sohbet physically, is there a way to be distanced, but still in sohbet?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: Yesterday you were talking about loving what the Sheykh loves and being angry at what he is being angry at, and today you are talking about being in sohbet with the Sheykh. For people who cannot be in … Continue reading

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Today’s people, Muslim or non Muslim don’t take Religion seriously. Is the flood of fire too close?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: Today’s people, Muslim or non-Muslims, they are really bullying, not caring about the Prophets. They are saying ‘this is a game, this is not true.’ It’s like Salih (as), his people were many, but when the big wind … Continue reading

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Can someone have sincerity initially and then lose it?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: You are reminding us that sheytan is disobedient to Allah because his love was insincere. And you are teaching us that Murids must be looking at sheytan to understand and to take lesson for our own disobedience to … Continue reading

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Can you talk about how not to trust our egos?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: Can you talk about how not to trust our egos? Trust your Sheykh. Trust your Allah and your Prophet. Trust your guide. Trust him more than your ego. He will say ‘black,’ ego is going to say ‘white,’ … Continue reading

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The Importance of the Heart

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: You are mentioning that Allah is asking “You gave your heart to somebody else, why did you do that?” My question is, for us Murids, our heart is for our Sheykh, are the desires or some things that … Continue reading

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Fear of betraying my Sheykh is making me to not clean my mess. How do I overcome this?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: Being afraid of betraying my Sheykh is making me to not clean the mess that I am in. How do I overcome this trick of my ego and my laziness, to clean up my mess? I am trying … Continue reading

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Is it necessary for a person, before entering Tarikat, to have certain experiences or knowledge?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: I was asked about something from Hz Aziz Mahmud Hudayi, that before he entered into Tarikat, he had so much knowledge, and he attained that position, and it’s also similar in Hz Maulana Rumi’s life. Is it necessary … Continue reading

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How can I recognize my ego, and how do I know when my ego is controlling my actions?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: How can I recognize my ego, and how do I know when my ego is in charge and controlling my actions? This ego is called the nafs. The nafs, the ego, it is a very disobedient creature to … Continue reading

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Islam is One Path

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: We are often told that Islam is one path. Does that mean that there is one path for every Muslim to walk, or should each person walk in individual paths that is guided by Islamic beliefs? BismillahirRahmanirRahim. Destur … Continue reading

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In Tarikat how do we “sweep with the broom of La to reach il-Allah” as Imam Rabbani K.S. says?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: In Tarikat how do we “sweep with the broom of La to reach il-Allah” as Imam Rabbani K.S. says? Get rid of the ilahs. La means no. So, ‘la’, no, ‘ilah’, no gods, no realities, nothing. It doesn’t … Continue reading

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Does becoming deaf, dumb and blind lead to losing Edep or is it the result of losing Edep?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: Does becoming deaf, dumb and blind lead to losing Edep or is it the result of losing Edep? We all have that capacity to fall out of edep. We all have that potential. Because we all share the … Continue reading

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What are things that we can do to protect the Ashk?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: In the Khutbah you mentioned regarding the faith and Ashk, and you taught us that to protect that faith, the defense is the Salat, Zakat, Hajj, the five pillars of Islam. They are the defenses. What are things … Continue reading

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When the Mongols reverted to Islam, how did they start to rebuild the Islamic educational system?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: When the Mongols reverted to Islam, how did they start to rebuild the Islamic educational system? When the Mongols became Muslims, how did they rebuild the Islamic education system? As you know, the Mongols they were devastating the … Continue reading

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Every now and then, my heart starts feeling very heavy. How should I handle this?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: Every now and then, my heart starts feeling very heavy, sometimes reminded of things, and sometimes for no reason at all. How should I handle this? This is affecting so many people, of course. I don’t want to … Continue reading

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You said that answers are in us. Without a Guide, how do we find them?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: You told that answers don’t have to be in books, it’s in us. Without a Guide how do we find them? You see, in the Sufic understanding, everyone is already assigned a guide, whether they know or they … Continue reading

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If someone doesn’t do something the sunnah way, does that take blessings away?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: If someone doesn’t do something the sunnah way, like wash dishes or enter the masjid the sunnah way, does that take blessings away? Definitely. You see, we are brought up to think sunnah is just extra, not necessary. … Continue reading

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What makes a murid in this way to leave?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: Last week you were saying that at least Ibn Salamah he got dunya, but the murids that chase after dunya, they don’t even get dunya or ahiret. They lose both. What then makes a murid in this way … Continue reading

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My intention to follow a guide to safety. Is that considered expecting something in return?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: My intention is that we are following a guide, that in following him, I get to safety, in this world and the next. Is that a good intention, or is that also considered expecting something in return? You … Continue reading

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What is the effect of malayani or useless speech on a person?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: You have reminded us often to speak if it benefits other people and yourself, or else be silent. What is the effect of that speech on a person, that is useless or malayani or doesn’t benefit? As the … Continue reading

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What did Qitmeer do that is so special that Allah SWT is taking it to Jannat?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: We’ve been hearing since childhood about the men of the caves and their dog. My question is, what did that dog do special, that Allah SWT is taking it to Jannat? There are only a handful of animals … Continue reading

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Those that disconnect from their Sheykh seem to fall into disaster. Is that because they no longer have the protection?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: Yesterday we were talking about the man who was rolling around happy that he disconnected from his Sheykh. Those that disconnect from their Sheykh seem to fall into disaster after, is that because their ego becomes more dominant … Continue reading

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What are the differences in terms of how a person is raised that he thinks about the group?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: Today I was reading a book from Chinese culture, and I was seeing in there that their thinking is much more about the group, about the benefit of the group. The way that we are raised in America … Continue reading

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Does betrayal build up to one moment where it’s either here or there?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: When Huseyin (RA)’s followers they betrayed him in the middle of the night, you said that the ones that followed him, they knew years before that they were going to die with him. And the ones that left … Continue reading

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How does the Murid know that he is suppressing the ego or actually fighting the ego?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: When the Sheykh pokes the ego, and the ego is then attacking, how does the Murid know that he is suppressing that or actually fighting the ego at that point? Do whatever it takes. At some points, it … Continue reading

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Can you explain when to take the sohbet literally and when to take it metaphorically?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: The language of the Evliya is very rich, and you mentioned that a sohbet has seven levels of understanding. Some people take the words literally and sometimes it’s metaphorical and vice versa. How do the murids who are … Continue reading

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What is the job of a Murid, especially if they don’t live around here?

BismillahirRahmanirRahim Question: What is the role and the job of a Murid, especially if they don’t live around here? What are their duties? To who? Then that’s another thing to think about, to who. Okay? Because we have different work … Continue reading

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